tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70689741382786779272024-03-27T04:21:10.503-05:00 A Ruby in the RoughThis is a blog to hopefully encourage and help others in their journey through life to become a better Christian, wife, mother, grandmother, or person because NONE OF US have arrived. We are all Rubies in the Making! Rubies in the rough have not yet been perfected. My goal is to be a thought provoker! I will share ideas, thoughts, poems, recipes and yes even an occasional rant. My prayer is that I will be a help to someone.Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.comBlogger306125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-53754517147829749212024-03-13T16:22:00.003-05:002024-03-13T16:22:50.793-05:00Being a Thermometer and a Thermostat<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUjsI0VJD0ubwoKSdYAhB-U2m6bEJIPkHRaMiLOa1dhHMdAyuZv2g21AncMbiB04_9E4r-JD8Bu8M5esJIOK-5T-Cx8a0KlbcaXNJCjHJFLbNfpnieyMMbmnJxZkQqmzc_uIwd4SSAqgdCvIKQZ1faz8DV3StU4O43YvfVcYM0GeOI8xDvVsr5uwMeCGkL/s194/thermometer.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="180" data-original-width="194" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUjsI0VJD0ubwoKSdYAhB-U2m6bEJIPkHRaMiLOa1dhHMdAyuZv2g21AncMbiB04_9E4r-JD8Bu8M5esJIOK-5T-Cx8a0KlbcaXNJCjHJFLbNfpnieyMMbmnJxZkQqmzc_uIwd4SSAqgdCvIKQZ1faz8DV3StU4O43YvfVcYM0GeOI8xDvVsr5uwMeCGkL/s1600/thermometer.jpg" width="194" /></a></div><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Let's start by explaining what each of these items are used for in daily life. A thermometer is an instrument that reads and tells you the temperature of a given area. It can be used outdoors or inside a building. A thermostat allows a person to set the temperature to a chosen certain degree of temperature inside a building. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">There are times in life when it is necessary to be one or the other and often both. It is important as moms, grandmas, friends, bosses and Christians to be a thermometer. We need to be able to read the temperature of a room of people or a situation. A watchful eye, carefully listening ear and a little wisdom will help us determine if there is a problem arising. When we feel the temperature rising in our area, we can step in and help to diffuse the situation. By the same token, if the room seems cold and drab and as though people are not warming up to one another or interacting as we hoped, we can also do something to help break the ice.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">We are thermometers when we read the temperature of the room but when we step in to help change the temperature, we then become the thermostat. At our house we go over and change the setting on the thermostat of our furnace or central air unit depending on how warm or cold we feel in the house. It's as simple as hitting a button or turning a dial. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Unfortunately, when dealing with people and temperatures of a situation, it takes more than hitting a button. People won't always respond in the way you hope as easily as an electrical device. Experience will help you get better at being a thermometer and a thermostat in most situations of life. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">There are many devotionals you can find online that tell you to be the thermostat and not the thermometer. I suppose as I read through those I can see their point. However, life is a balance and I think it's important to be both as you travel life's journey and deal with people. Many a problem can be diffused if we first read the temperature of the situation and then become the thermostat to set everything to a new degree. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Just something to ponder. I can't believe I have gone well into March of 2024 before even making a single blog post. In my defense, I am again working on another book to publish on Amazon KDP and have devoted my time to that. Be on the look out for a release date some time in the near future.</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-79392207946860147502023-12-13T08:34:00.004-06:002023-12-13T08:34:26.438-06:00One Holy Night<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzKg3InRjbVCWWbf6Joe4J6CJE5Vp78DtzgkkoT9i9h3JTgVWquS7nzPpTUU4bLU3TkDtY2fdTmKEfkrDwUlyO8gW0pDnsIKOP8UOQZzP7rcPBeB8TZjS78iYkXkExxVN-ZdqQndWVs-V6xdGDRGGBUyYCn0Jt242ZBj-uAIcAS1srpy_AAwRs_TNq64v2/s1000/Robert_A_Boyd_Nativity_xuzsns.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="667" data-original-width="1000" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzKg3InRjbVCWWbf6Joe4J6CJE5Vp78DtzgkkoT9i9h3JTgVWquS7nzPpTUU4bLU3TkDtY2fdTmKEfkrDwUlyO8gW0pDnsIKOP8UOQZzP7rcPBeB8TZjS78iYkXkExxVN-ZdqQndWVs-V6xdGDRGGBUyYCn0Jt242ZBj-uAIcAS1srpy_AAwRs_TNq64v2/s320/Robert_A_Boyd_Nativity_xuzsns.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Wow! It's been awhile since I posted. I am not sure I have ever gone this long between posts. I was busy writing and publishing an eBook on Amazon KDP and continuing with a second book which I am determined to make long enough to be available in print. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">With Christmas approaching I wanted to talk about things surrounding that holy night. There are Christians who think it is wrong to celebrate Christmas. There are several reasons given. One is that we are never told to remember Jesus' birth in the Bible, only His death. Another is that it is celebrated at the wrong time of year. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Well, I want to cover both of those today. While there is not a command given to remember His birth. I think that the fact that so much detail is written about the birth in Scripture, tells me that we ARE to remember. Are we not given the Bible to read, meditate on and study so that we can tell others? I am not sure we can fully cover telling people about Jesus dying without telling HOW He came. After all, if there wasn't a miraculous virgin birth, the dying on the cross as the sacrificial lamb would be pointless. God had the writers tell the story with many small details included. It's the details that make it important. I will look at some of the seen and unseen details later. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Since we don't know the exact day that Jesus was born, I don't think it matters when it is celebrated. It's only important that we celebrate that Jesus came willingly to earth in a humble manner. He came in human flesh to experience all we experience. He came as a baby, needing care and instruction. He had earthly parents whom He was subject to (Luke 2:51). He increased in wisdom and stature (Luke 2:52). He got hungry and thirsty and angry (Mark 11:12, John 19:28, Mark 3:5). He cried (John 11:35). He was tempted as we are but never sinned (Hebrews 2:18, 4:15). He came to suffer and die and rise again to usher in salvation and the mystery of the church age. There would have been no cross without that cradle! Jesus could have come in any way but God's plan, that was prophesied, was that He would come as a baby born to a virgin. I think that we should celebrate Christmas as long as we keep Jesus in the forefront of the season! He came to give the greatest gift ever given...Salvation, a way to be reconciled back to God even though we sin.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Now let's look at some of the unseen details. Mary was told that she would miraculously conceive and give birth to the Son of God. She as far as we know, did not know that He would some day walk on water as the song questions. She knew He was the Messiah but did not know the ins and outs and whens of the sequence of events as she raised Him. She still worried over Him as seen in the story when He went missing after the Passover feast and was found 3 days later in the temple. I love the show The Chosen. It gives such a human vantage point to draw from. One of my favorite episodes and scenes in the show is when Mary is telling the disciples around the campfire about having to wipe Jesus off after the birth. She goes on to tell how she and Joseph thought to themselves "this is the Son of God?" They obviously are in wonderment thinking that Jesus would have come out shiny and new and without any mess because of who He was. Now, we have no Scripture reporting that Mary and Joseph thought these things but I personally can see why they might have. The fact that Jesus came as a baby meant that He would know every aspect of what we humans go through. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Recently, someone shared on Facebook a well written poem or story about how Mary knew she would be with child and it would be the Son of God but that Mary's mother did not know. Her mom did not have an angel come to her as far as we know from Scripture. Only Mary and Joseph got the privilege of an angel coming and telling them. Was Mary's mom supportive or did she think she was telling crazy stories? Did she suspect that Mary did not keep herself pure? How would you have handled it? As a parent, our instinct is to protect and encourage and correct but Mary's story was truly unbelievable. Did her mom face ridicule and judgement right along with Mary? Probably! That's the way people are. They stand in judgement of the parents when a child messes up. Just something to ponder. We will not know this side of heaven but this gives us another aspect of what Mary went through. By the way, Joseph probably also faced ridicule and gossip. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Now, what about the inn keeper? Nope, there is no talk about an inn keeper in the Bible. Guess what! There is talk about how there was no room for them in the inn. An inn is a hotel, a public dwelling place. Therefore, it stands to reason that there was someone in charge of receiving payment from people to stay there. Someone like an inn keeper! That's a no brainer people! Did God foresee that preachers would some day preach about how we should not be like the inn keeper and make room for Jesus? I don't know but it sure makes for good sermons! Can you imagine how that inn keeper may have felt someday down the road about not allowing the Son of God into his inn? I wonder if the man ever knew that Jesus, the Messiah, was put out into the stable? Can you imagine the guilt? Hmm. How often do we fail to make room? How often do we fail to see what God is trying to show us or work out around us? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">This is starting to get a little long so I will wrap it up. One Holy Night that forever changed the world! A night that 33 years or so later led to a cross that brought redemption and salvation to mankind! Yep, I will celebrate! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-76190925141905180522023-07-23T20:10:00.005-05:002023-07-23T20:10:59.822-05:00The Love and Care of God<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRvqEoXAJUnyzaNVAl6Rvt9brojqbXyO5j4XrtkK9lvWcNGPm4Fg3mNvFEk04opZeWXb82EwolRu5V7Hyp2tYiibbZn1kB9PUxCmwGA4Nu_vK29xVVEspU6dQ1BbOwR2KZ528BpdKSI_1_sSUeBmpx0MARUSlgozvpd1fMPrj4rJFdOzttYPCQLzxc_DDQ/s180/god%20cares.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="180" data-original-width="180" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRvqEoXAJUnyzaNVAl6Rvt9brojqbXyO5j4XrtkK9lvWcNGPm4Fg3mNvFEk04opZeWXb82EwolRu5V7Hyp2tYiibbZn1kB9PUxCmwGA4Nu_vK29xVVEspU6dQ1BbOwR2KZ528BpdKSI_1_sSUeBmpx0MARUSlgozvpd1fMPrj4rJFdOzttYPCQLzxc_DDQ/s1600/god%20cares.jpg" width="180" /></a></div><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">I want to talk about how God, in Scripture, shows us how to love and care for others. We have everything we need to know in how to raise our children and how to deal with friends and extended family and even strangers we encounter out in the world, right there in black and white and red, in the Bible. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">His examples of discipline, provision, love and care are found all throughout His Word. Awhile back, while sitting in church listening to a sermon, we were being reminded of how God was angered by the disobedience of the Israelites and how He had them wander in the desert for 40 years as a result. It dawned on me during that sermon that God loved and cared for them all during that 40 years. This <u><b>included</b></u> those who were disobedient in heart and failed to trust in what He told them. They had to stay outside of the Promised Land until all who had been disobedient were died off. However, He took care of them during that 40 year punishment! He lead them by pillars of cloud and fire. He gave manna, meat, turned bitter water to sweet, gave water from a rock, and told them precisely where to move their tents. He gave precise instruction on how to build a tabernacle in order to worship Him, protected from enemies, gave commandments on how to live their daily lives and all during a period of discipline or punishment as it were. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">You see, just as He still loves us even when we mess up and He must chasten us, we still love our children even though we must discipline them. As a matter of fact, God commands us to correct and discipline our children when they step outside of our rules. The bible says in Hebrews 12:6 - For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. Hebrews 12:8 - But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Proverbs 22:15 - Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 29:17 - Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. When we have our children be in correction and discipline, we do not withhold love and affection, or provision of food, shelter, laundry or whatever. At least, we do not if we follow God's example. He cared for those who He had been angry with right up until their deaths. They just did not get to enter the earthly promised land.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">We are also to tell others the error of their ways by correcting them and showing them from scripture where they are going astray. Mind you, this is not done piously or as though we are not capable of falling. James 5:20 - Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins. We are to spread the gospel to all. This will include showing them their sinful state. When a fellow Christian is stepping out into sin, we are to restore such an one. Galations 6:1 - Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">When David sinned with Bathsheba, it was Nathan the prophet who told him a story and when David was angered over the person in the story who sinned, Nathan said, "Thou art the man." God used Nathan to convict David of his sin and in turn David humbled himself and sought forgiveness from God. God still punished David by taking his newborn son conceived with Bathsheba. Later, God gave David and Bathsheba their son, Solomon who went on to be a great king after David died. Though God punished David for his sin, He didn't turn away and leave David. He continued to bless and help him and called David "a man after God's own heart". </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">We cannot fully comprehend the love and care of God in our human minds. The Bible says that His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are higher than ours. We just trust that He is Sovereign and in charge and maketh no mistake! He loves us even when He is compelled to discipline us. </span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-10801769526729144282023-06-14T16:11:00.002-05:002023-06-14T16:14:28.467-05:00What To Do With Hurt Feelings<p style="text-align: center;"> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZRjqENELSULbgAGgy7v9vDb1xcjA1w5FN-R-mNwkbq4ahDWfmVZxBYhl59Tw4-bvBTn0P7hbzkqFUBkJQCLdrN8spAX6RCLGZRjTvo8E0Lp-WQuBMzRpm5jpYeByVw0ifZJbw_SFlCcOC2drL7TkFR4pS_brU_TE_JUrj6T6G3bj5Ofmoqxnyw1qetQ/s180/hurt%202.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="180" data-original-width="180" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZRjqENELSULbgAGgy7v9vDb1xcjA1w5FN-R-mNwkbq4ahDWfmVZxBYhl59Tw4-bvBTn0P7hbzkqFUBkJQCLdrN8spAX6RCLGZRjTvo8E0Lp-WQuBMzRpm5jpYeByVw0ifZJbw_SFlCcOC2drL7TkFR4pS_brU_TE_JUrj6T6G3bj5Ofmoqxnyw1qetQ/s1600/hurt%202.jpg" width="180" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Hello there! It's been a little while since I blogged. I want to talk about what to do when someone hurts us. It happens to all of us. We can be wounded, sometimes deeply, by friends, family, and even strangers. People are often self-centered, speak or act without thinking or just plain old mean intentionally. We can be guilty of hurting others also.</span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">One of the first things biblically speaking that we should do is forgive. Forgive immediately even through the hurt. The hurt may still sting but forgiveness is the best thing for your heart and soul. Once you forgive, you can more easily control your own temper as you talk to the person and let them know they have hurt you. Ephesians 4:31-32 says Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 - And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">We must resist the urge to retaliate. Romans 12:17-19 reminds us Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 18 - If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. 19 - Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. This is harder to follow than to say I know! It goes on in verse 21 to say Be not overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Colossians 3:12-13 says Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 - Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I realize in the moment, in the freshness of the wound, these commands of God are hard to follow. However, if we will keep a humble mind full of meekness and remember that we sometimes hurt others it will help. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Another thing that will help is to not allow ourselves to dwell on it. Don't let your mind linger thinking and thinking about what the person said or did. Philippians 4:8 says Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Something else to do is to stop and self evaluate. Is there any truth to what someone said about you? Are you guilty of what they may be saying about you? Maybe you need to try to make some changes within yourself. If what they said isn't true, then remember that God loves you so much he sent Jesus to die and make a way back to having a relationship with Him and you are fearfully and wonderfully made...these are things that are true and pure and honest and absolutely lovely to let your mind dwell on. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">One more thing... it will help in your forgiving if you remember that maybe the person was just having a bad day and lashing out or just speaking without thinking. Everyone is careless with words sometimes. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I hope this was an encouragement to someone. </span></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkeew9Uk8Sn_J3q20uJviEb3VzBXi_kpmG-exihSAPCS5A9LqBjmddrN0HT93pybr0QPiVfN8m27Dwf1hLZqHkfIlnQ00oBowQHyNhWOtiG5k-x8-6IIJgdpyhD5KAQZMB8r-rFG-mBfuoOe7JJak8uts6TzsqIb6U1rAWCXlELuyrUYOwINXYLcXjTw/s222/hurt%20(2).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="163" data-original-width="222" height="163" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkeew9Uk8Sn_J3q20uJviEb3VzBXi_kpmG-exihSAPCS5A9LqBjmddrN0HT93pybr0QPiVfN8m27Dwf1hLZqHkfIlnQ00oBowQHyNhWOtiG5k-x8-6IIJgdpyhD5KAQZMB8r-rFG-mBfuoOe7JJak8uts6TzsqIb6U1rAWCXlELuyrUYOwINXYLcXjTw/s1600/hurt%20(2).jpg" width="222" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /> </span><p></p><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-29803392445164944542023-04-11T09:42:00.002-05:002023-04-11T09:43:44.394-05:00To See the World<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2pdZ3YB87_H5au6ft_sNiqda7gsEHOB3OMHmtEAP7F_2KhK6yWbraVgKIyEPf5ITkEu3kEQMlnkX5rBYD7SwUzrfnREau2v7sXeFVotFxIHeGJfl5A5x8svsGxdYlFOQU7JyFvE8a04NSq7xXld0Pjlz-9MuSGFDJVhgOf8s_nSTfURSReKbj7JG3cA/s899/277c69c36b734b760f597082dd416869.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="899" data-original-width="861" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2pdZ3YB87_H5au6ft_sNiqda7gsEHOB3OMHmtEAP7F_2KhK6yWbraVgKIyEPf5ITkEu3kEQMlnkX5rBYD7SwUzrfnREau2v7sXeFVotFxIHeGJfl5A5x8svsGxdYlFOQU7JyFvE8a04NSq7xXld0Pjlz-9MuSGFDJVhgOf8s_nSTfURSReKbj7JG3cA/s320/277c69c36b734b760f597082dd416869.jpg" width="306" /></a></div><br /> <span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">The above lines are just the beginning stanza of a much longer poem. If you google this poem you will find various opinions of what it means. I'm not sure if any of the opinions are fully grasping the meaning. At least not how I see it.</span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">What comes to my mind is for us to <u style="font-style: italic;">truly</u> <u style="font-style: italic;">SEE</u> what is before us each day. See <i><u>everything</u></i> for the specialness in which God created and intended them to be. A grain of sand is but a speck that built a beach. A wildflower is planted by God and shares with us a fraction of the beauty of heaven. When we look at God's creation through aww of Him, we can experience just a glimpse of infinity and eternity. What a beautiful world God made!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">When we look at people through God's eyes, we see the souls He wants to save. ---For God so loved the world...John 3:16 --- He's not willing that any should perish...2 Peter 3:9</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">If we would see the world with heaven's view, we would love more purely, forgive more freely and witness about saving grace more tediously. See! Open your heart and see! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">Just a thought that's been on my heart lately. Hope it was an encouragement.</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-31946489653247710082023-03-16T14:43:00.003-05:002023-03-16T14:43:55.816-05:00Fences for Protection<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7xVkiBJyPrb02fI0YKdy-nVnsvyOs2JEleW9WQ08R-mB1nsiVD12YN9Ya9WzjMbgGtNE7j5lDJuns1ks7Ef5ca26dZKydz0pcrXKQyT3OBmPOVt4Zx24fesr5T4EFXfS4zeXZ1kmLZaglbZpd6bWpqK6ZCXWAHxmtLsz-oQ3DCYJaK25ci6inciXgVw/s474/fence.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="316" data-original-width="474" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7xVkiBJyPrb02fI0YKdy-nVnsvyOs2JEleW9WQ08R-mB1nsiVD12YN9Ya9WzjMbgGtNE7j5lDJuns1ks7Ef5ca26dZKydz0pcrXKQyT3OBmPOVt4Zx24fesr5T4EFXfS4zeXZ1kmLZaglbZpd6bWpqK6ZCXWAHxmtLsz-oQ3DCYJaK25ci6inciXgVw/s320/fence.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">I heard a preacher say recently that fences are to protect. We fence yards to keep young children and pets safe from the street. People live in gated, fenced communities for safety for those who live there from strangers that may cause harm. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Prisons have fences to protect the public from convicted criminals. Without those fences the criminal would probably go right back out and keep committing crimes. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Fences at the borders of countries are meant to protect the citizens from those who would enter to cause harm. It also helps to protect the sovereignty of that country and the rights of the citizens. Rights and privileges of a country belong solely to it's citizens! This topic has become very divisive in the USA since 2008 and used politically to reinforce the divide and to try to gain votes in my opinion. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_XHZPqVqcLWzVsANhl70GmSRdYuwOfDsN62Sg6iL9QJn_qglKNpYEgot6u8sTQkOr4-YogsnUCdwORUgFOS9gwrxUrlBbwnXyjlrNgO8sJSYeobRm37xvWrVoxIrOhygQB09LcfaGJe-kMRP_ZEib1nd6gLvzQXqZyUDfSc5Xg_r76ZcsrX8yZ_Vqug/s474/locked%20heart%20fence.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="276" data-original-width="474" height="186" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_XHZPqVqcLWzVsANhl70GmSRdYuwOfDsN62Sg6iL9QJn_qglKNpYEgot6u8sTQkOr4-YogsnUCdwORUgFOS9gwrxUrlBbwnXyjlrNgO8sJSYeobRm37xvWrVoxIrOhygQB09LcfaGJe-kMRP_ZEib1nd6gLvzQXqZyUDfSc5Xg_r76ZcsrX8yZ_Vqug/s320/locked%20heart%20fence.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">We also tend to put up fences around our hearts as protection. We do this to try to prevent hurt and protect our emotional and mental well being. There is definitely a time and place for this but it can also be detrimental. We can keep people at such arms length that we never have real and honest relationships. Finding the balance between what kind of fence and how high of one to build and leaving a gate open to allow some people in and close can be tricky. We should remember that we shouldn't make one person pay for the sins of hurting us that another person committed. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Just something to think about.</span></div><br /><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><br /></span><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-33105974824613067712023-03-08T13:12:00.008-06:002023-03-08T13:12:50.663-06:00Carving Out a Place<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsyYncttKwkoQ6lumae36f53pcxq_Ho5TQHkA1qTQi6m0UzM9MIkuJdu4zPPT7uzTCaDK2y9OcbPE2YnBl_bsxTuicMyy5eQUvfl3z9pmOETGIVtkeM1vVlK_wlsQ_KMTtJR80DCNC-0WMx9QTSf7pE4eid316y2LYL5W0yilBoo9kyKGHZ3VM4FjEQw/s300/carve%20out.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="200" data-original-width="300" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsyYncttKwkoQ6lumae36f53pcxq_Ho5TQHkA1qTQi6m0UzM9MIkuJdu4zPPT7uzTCaDK2y9OcbPE2YnBl_bsxTuicMyy5eQUvfl3z9pmOETGIVtkeM1vVlK_wlsQ_KMTtJR80DCNC-0WMx9QTSf7pE4eid316y2LYL5W0yilBoo9kyKGHZ3VM4FjEQw/s1600/carve%20out.jpg" width="300" /></a></div><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">It seems that we spend our lives trying to carve out our own spot in the world. Even as children and teens, at the same time we're trying to find a group to connect and fit in with, we're also trying to find our own identity and way to stand out and be noticed for our special talents and abilities. Not sure if that's pride or what. I think more likely it's wanting to matter. Wanting to matter in this world as we make a way of life for ourselves and those we care about. So, we chisel and carve a little here and a little there as we forge ahead. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Some are trying to carve a place in their career, and see just where they can excel. Others are trying to carve a place in their education. Especially in higher education as they hope for knowledge to better themselves. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Young couples are doing their best to carve out a place in the world separate from their parents. To make their own choices and see where life takes them.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">The past two years my husband and I have been trying to carve a new way of life different than we lived for 18 years. We're trying to use knowledge and wisdom gained from that former carving and see where we can chisel ahead to a place in a new church with different roles. To find more and new ways to minister to people. It's not easy. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: courier; font-size: x-large;">Sometimes the chisel and even the pick ax seem too dull and heavy for the task. Sometimes the area you're trying to carve on seems like granite and you're never going to get through to the place you long for so desperately. Just keep carving. Some day you'll look around and realize you do have a place and the carving is beautiful even if there's flaws where the chisel slipped. </span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-58212141410145265542023-02-07T20:04:00.009-06:002023-02-07T20:08:44.323-06:00Book Review - Just Open the Door<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMyJOEJ2tA1fUJClEXYHLjIEni40SS9T58Qc78RhjHQWE-jLA4RxLQ5tTVKuelDstdmXzDNNxeH1C3elQneFcDBe320u15qiLsVAcf_hNJkcwFqc2ez-6b9xNaZ39NVnt8-K6z0UjByF0ObMhgQse1YsPemSLDU0VL6Y7Hev1RKCxMDZ1VvH3GLkn0BQ/s724/open%20the%20door.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="724" data-original-width="474" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMyJOEJ2tA1fUJClEXYHLjIEni40SS9T58Qc78RhjHQWE-jLA4RxLQ5tTVKuelDstdmXzDNNxeH1C3elQneFcDBe320u15qiLsVAcf_hNJkcwFqc2ez-6b9xNaZ39NVnt8-K6z0UjByF0ObMhgQse1YsPemSLDU0VL6Y7Hev1RKCxMDZ1VvH3GLkn0BQ/s320/open%20the%20door.jpg" width="210" /></a></div><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">I promised some people I would give a review of this book by Jen Schmidt when I finished. First of all, I am not being paid for my review. The author doesn't know I am doing this. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">I really enjoyed the read! For years I have struggled with the thought and feeling that there HAD to be more to ministry than what happens in and around the church. After all, ministry at the core is about serving people. While that may include cleaning at the church or working in the nursery, it more appropriately should be about reaching out to others and mentoring them. It's about showing people the love, compassion, mercy and grace of Jesus. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">The premise of the book is to use hospitality as a way to reach out and mentor people. It drives home the point of simplicity and spontaneity. Don't wait for a perfect home or the perfect moment to invite others over. It doesn't have to be a grand affair that causes great stress. It reminds us to step out of the comfort zone and open the door even to someone new to us or different than us. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">It also pushes you to look deep at your motives when you want to have guests over and make it a big and perfect production. Is it pride? Is it wanting praise from others for your production? Or is it to genuinely reach others and show them love, care and compassion? I was convicted several times as I read! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">I confess that I wasn't always a submissive wife when we were in full time ministry. My husband would have liked to have people over every weekend or Sunday. I resisted this idea. Not, that we never had people over but I just had a hard time with doing it on a regular and constant basis. I felt like we gave so much of ourselves all week with the physical prep for church services and the visiting of members and potential members that I wanted our home to be a refuge and a place to shut out the world and allow us to veg out for awhile. (we were in a small church with little help with the day to day) I also felt exhausted and like I just wasn't up for the prep work on my house for company (I admit I am not the greatest housekeeper) or the cooking involved in extra mouths to feed. I love to cook but just felt overwhelmed by the idea of it all. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">This book helped me see it can be simple and that all people really want is an inviting, cozy, fun and comfortable atmosphere where they can engage in conversation and get to know one another better. Most people won't care if there are imperfections in the carpet or furniture or even a bit of dirt around. What they WILL care about is that you cared enough to invite them over and engaged in their life.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">Jen Schmidt loads this book with personal stories that inspire your creative juices and practical ideas to help you get started opening the door both at home and even on the go. I have already been inspired and am looking forward to putting into practice the things she talked about and the ideas she has sparked within me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: large;">I highly recommend this book for inspiration and ideas to take on a new perspective in ministering to others. My husband got the book for me for Christmas. He ordered it on Christianbook.com. I hope you will get your own copy and get inspired! </span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-6012695565878261572023-01-16T20:28:00.001-06:002023-01-16T20:31:08.992-06:00Commas & Periods in Life<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYvAeu-9SAIn8y_lFPwPDR5EldOJKX4fCQmK1AEwdk_M2v9YWumJOikDvMlz7xQF08C4OidOkvLK1D50VIptzseO91sLypMkc2dD6eyDoq_oWaVKCZObGrvq5C5ORH6OUj_S4aSyEn2DT431wRNi-Qfcr008H3AgQL9g9GD-4lkdvtq1p-y3vyrwwdPA/s299/comma.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="169" data-original-width="299" height="169" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYvAeu-9SAIn8y_lFPwPDR5EldOJKX4fCQmK1AEwdk_M2v9YWumJOikDvMlz7xQF08C4OidOkvLK1D50VIptzseO91sLypMkc2dD6eyDoq_oWaVKCZObGrvq5C5ORH6OUj_S4aSyEn2DT431wRNi-Qfcr008H3AgQL9g9GD-4lkdvtq1p-y3vyrwwdPA/s1600/comma.jpg" width="299" /></a></div><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">A period in grammar is intended to show the end of a sentence or a statement or thought. A comma is a pause between parts of a sentence. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">The above graphic shows a common saying that people use to encourage others. Essentially, what it means is that we should not make rash life decisions and possibly end certain areas of life when God may only intend for you to take a pause and regroup before continuing on. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">Discerning which God is bringing in our lives can be difficult. At times it may feel like a period. It may feel like the end and we may be ready to give up on a particular dream or idea or whatever. Later, we may realize that it was only a comma in life. It was just God saying "Pause and wait on me". God knows what we need and what is best. He may know we need a rest mentally or physically so He causes a delay. He knows when we need more training and aren't yet ready for what we desire or are pursuing. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">I know people who tried for years to have a child and had given up hope and placed a period for that part of life. Then all at once the woman became pregnant and then realized it was just a comma God had placed. I also know someone who made the decision to place a period on having anymore children. She had a tuba ligation. FIVE YEARS later God surprised her with another child and then another after that! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">Sometimes we place periods on careers. I know someone who had a degree and a prestigious type job and left it to do something completely unrelated. Several years later God made it so she couldn't continue in the new career path due to health problems. She went back to her original career only with added areas. It was really only a comma. As she is continuing that degree career she has also pursued a second one by opening a café. She also is selling honey and honey products after beginning beekeeping. I'd say she's a go-getter even though she still has the health issues. She has allowed God to place the periods and commas in her life. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">In 2020 we left full time ministry to minister to my in-laws. We are hoping this is only a comma in our lives. There is much we love about full time ministry and we are waiting to see how God moves. However, we know that right now ministry to family is most important. I also think that God is using this time to grow us. We've learned quite a bit over the past 2 1/2 years and I hope that means God will show us that it really was just a comma and pause from full time ministry.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: x-large;">As I said, it's not easy to tell which God is doing. Sometimes, often times, we don't know until hindsight but we should always make our decisions prayerfully and trust God and let Him do the placing of the periods and commas.</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-23795774431696696622022-12-27T20:39:00.005-06:002022-12-27T20:42:11.177-06:00Learning From the Apostle Paul<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsiw2DKBm-vmkFP5rHjRvt8v_pqYO2wnXW6O9fk6aMFjufzto6UdNBlvPdC0wJkfKPSEQNwZhgKTW0NVmQIgrVNLMNTzQmMe43vETQbGdNbeb7axzY6wP9KH9hFzPKy122klX7E31ns3t4ggizkoPk4kgj9LbMFvt1ELZbFdZYwGe-z1PwuSJg5H_FiQ/s294/life%20of%20paul%20(2).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="149" data-original-width="294" height="149" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsiw2DKBm-vmkFP5rHjRvt8v_pqYO2wnXW6O9fk6aMFjufzto6UdNBlvPdC0wJkfKPSEQNwZhgKTW0NVmQIgrVNLMNTzQmMe43vETQbGdNbeb7axzY6wP9KH9hFzPKy122klX7E31ns3t4ggizkoPk4kgj9LbMFvt1ELZbFdZYwGe-z1PwuSJg5H_FiQ/s1600/life%20of%20paul%20(2).jpg" width="294" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I want to look at some take-aways from the life of Paul. Things we can learn. Of course we can read all the books of the Bible he wrote but I am not necessarily talking about what he taught. I want to look at Paul's life. His character and who he was.</span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Much of his life as a whole is covered in the book of Acts but we will look at other books, too. First of all, Paul didn't just preach the gospel. He wrote letters to different groups of people to teach and train them about how to live a Christian life. We should take a cue from Paul and do our best to train people after they are saved. I say, as I have before, that witnessing can change the population of heaven but discipleship can change the world!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Paul was bold and outspoken in teaching and correcting doctrine. He didn't care if it offended. He just stood for the truth. He even stood up to Peter and other Apostles when they were stepping back into Jewish traditions or acting ashamed of Christ. We, too, should stand on the truth of God's Word unapologetically. We can do this in a loving manner and not go out of our way to offend or be hateful.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Paul didn't beat down doors. He asked for people to pray with him for open doors so the Word of the Lord would have free course. (2 Thessalonians 3:1) He also didn't stay and keep preaching where he wasn't wanted. In Acts 13:51 he and Barnabas shook off the dust of their feet against the Jews who expelled them out of their coasts and went on to the next city. In Acts 18:6 Paul shook his raiment and told the Jews "Your blood be upon your own heads; I am clean. From henceforth I will go unto the Gentiles". Paul was of course speaking about that particular city because we know from further reading in Acts that Paul still preached the gospel to Jews in other places after that. I believe these facts about Paul should remind us that you can't make people hear what they are unwilling to hear. ---Really about anything in life even if it's truth. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">One of Paul's prayer requests was that his fellow Jews would be saved. (Romans 10:1) We, too, should pray for our loved ones to trust in Christ. We can pray that the right thing would be said by us or someone else they encounter to soften their hearts towards the saving knowledge of Jesus. We also need to tell them not just pray for them! Pray for the open door to speak to them. Pray for God's Word to penetrate their heart. Pray for boldness and courage to open your mouth to speak to them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">See, we can learn more from Paul than just his teachings about how to live a Christian life! </span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-28599021328964492942022-12-06T13:15:00.002-06:002022-12-06T13:16:54.658-06:00More Than an Addict<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXg4j1c4nvFWs8IUiindTf5Q_nkI_tJ2OlXgoKEebJxvI8ymRQNQlgCK7-rPQAPGQIln3PmmuJ5Ped7q4sb0AdQ1xA3phUwaB0cqOzIreT-K824_DGwUEHfKrwSyRjgZm-MQtU7Pvu75VpiTikxlMIYyNAGqZyVevFL4KrG4k6VWwHdRGzqqpj4eXWMQ/s500/Instagram-+How+to+Love+an+addict+from+a+Christian+Perspective.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="500" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXg4j1c4nvFWs8IUiindTf5Q_nkI_tJ2OlXgoKEebJxvI8ymRQNQlgCK7-rPQAPGQIln3PmmuJ5Ped7q4sb0AdQ1xA3phUwaB0cqOzIreT-K824_DGwUEHfKrwSyRjgZm-MQtU7Pvu75VpiTikxlMIYyNAGqZyVevFL4KrG4k6VWwHdRGzqqpj4eXWMQ/s320/Instagram-+How+to+Love+an+addict+from+a+Christian+Perspective.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">So many people write off addicts as good for nothing. I confess that I used to be one of those people. God has spoken to my heart over the past several years and changed my mind. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I have had family and friends have to deal with their children who were addicted to drugs or alcohol. Now I understand that each of those "good for nothing" addicts is someone's child no matter how old. Each one has a parent who is heart broke over watching their child destroy themselves. I've watched those parents cry, pray, try putting them in rehab and also try tough love. I've seen their agony up close and personal. My heart would break as I watched them at their whit's end. I am very thankful to God that He spared us going through that with our kids. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">There was a time when I didn't understand addiction. Trying to give up soda and sugar has taught me well about addiction! Those things are not near as hard on the body as drugs or alcohol but God still used them to change my heart. Now I understand that the addict's actions and sometimes craziness is not them. It's the addiction. They are controlled by it. The drive to have it causes them to act in ways outside their normal character. They will lie (big time!), cheat, steal and use people to get that drug or alcohol. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Now my addictions to soda and sugary treats didn't and doesn't drive me to the extremes I mentioned above, but when a craving hits I definitely need a "fix" to satisfy the craving. When I do not satisfy the craving, I can have withdrawal symptoms such as headache (most common for me), dizziness, and mood swings (I get crabby!). I definitely get that "feel good" feeling when I get my fix so I can only imagine how hard it must be on a drug addict or alcoholic. By the way, addictions come in many forms and just because yours isn't illegal or as harmful, doesn't mean you don't probably have the same type of withdrawals! Let someone take away your cigarette, coffee, smart phone, gaming device, or hobby and see how well you do! I believe God used my soda and sugar addictions to open my heart so I would have more compassion and understanding for the addict in general.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Addiction happens for different reasons and is often multifaceted. Often it begins with prescription pain killers after an injury or surgery. The reasoning behind why some folks can just use them sensibly and others become addicted is another blog post for another day. With young people (& quite frankly, even adults) it can start as a result of peer pressure. Often times it only takes one time of use with certain items to become completely addicted. This peer pressure is where the multifaceted comes in. Often, addiction happens as a result of trying to fill a void. People are trying to fill an emptiness. They want to feel accepted for who they are or they want to numb the pain of feeling worthless that is perceived in their own minds or has been portrayed to them from others in their lives. Again, this is a topic that needs a deeper dig and isn't the point of this post so I will not do that deeper dive right now. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Addicts are more than their addiction. They are people loved by family and friends who are devastated by the addict's self-destructive patterns. They are also souls loved by God who sent Jesus to die for their sins so they could have a relationship with Him. Just like the person who is NOT an addict! When I see who God is. I realize what I am. His holiness reminds me that He had to reach just as far down to save me as He does the addict, robber, rapist and murderer. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I chose the graphic today to remind us to keep a Christian attitude when it comes to dealing with addicts. Keep that attitude when dealing with everyone because we are all flawed and we all have baggage. Some people just have bigger suitcases than others! Yep, they are more than just an addict. They are loved by someone and loved by God. He wants all to come to repentance and be saved! </span></div><br /><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-23496180128618541762022-09-12T19:22:00.004-05:002022-09-12T19:22:40.799-05:00Influence Can Make or Break<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">r<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6jf7HWUYiV5IYy66n1ZWMIZPWOzAAdqyPtxO4zXiFzMPVNvHzXX6QNtDsYcBWu1h5awSwl6Pt3ZdPJZ0sbdiMCcR0r94ZkEHXaAmzA9LwyhuBChUuZgGRSlamTns1gR_F5Y31UHaJ02wl_1rvTWgSG0SH5PCfSBmSvZgWgTmXRF0yZ27HQ2xoBkkPVw/s319/influence.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="158" data-original-width="319" height="158" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6jf7HWUYiV5IYy66n1ZWMIZPWOzAAdqyPtxO4zXiFzMPVNvHzXX6QNtDsYcBWu1h5awSwl6Pt3ZdPJZ0sbdiMCcR0r94ZkEHXaAmzA9LwyhuBChUuZgGRSlamTns1gR_F5Y31UHaJ02wl_1rvTWgSG0SH5PCfSBmSvZgWgTmXRF0yZ27HQ2xoBkkPVw/s1600/influence.jpg" width="319" /></a></div><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">My husband and I have long believed and taught through out our ministry life that we must guard ourselves and our children from bad or wrong influences. What one person can withstand and not be effected by can devastate the next person. Many times we are warned in the bible about guarding against wrong and evil influences. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Proverbs 1:10-16 - My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. If they say, come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause: Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit: We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil: Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse: My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path: For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Proverbs 4:14-15 - Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men. Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Proverbs 22:24-25 - Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go; Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">1 Cor. 5:9-11 - I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one, no, not to eat. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">2 Thess. 3:14 - And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Let's face it, many adults cannot withstand peer pressure. Why would we expect kids to be able to withstand? Examples of adults not standing against peer pressure are the January 6th protests getting out of hand and leading to much worse things than what was first intended. Many who have been brought to trial used the excuse that they got caught up in the moment. All the protests and riots since the George Floyd incident are more proof of getting caught up in the chaos. Even in the bible the priests and Pharisees stir up the people to crucify Jesus. Many of those same people had only recently laid down palm branches and cried "Hosanna" as Jesus rode into Jerusalem. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">I have watched as certain influences allowed have caused harm or destroyed one child in a family yet had no effect on the other children. I have also watched teenagers be good influences on their parents and an entire church, actually. When my husband was a youth pastor, the teens we worked with became big soul winners and it fired up the whole church to invite and tell people about Christ. We had a constant flow of visitors at the church. Many parents made changes at home in music and faithfulness to church all because their teens were doing right! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Following right example is also talked about in the bible. Paul tells the church in 2 Thessalonians 3:7-9 - For yourselves know how ye ought to follow us: for we behaved not ourselves disorderly among you; Neither did we eat any man's bread for nought; but wrought with labor and travail night and day, that we might not be chargeable to any of you: Not because we have not power, but to make ourselves an example unto you follow us. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">Hebrews 13:7 - Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">3 John 11 - Beloved, follow not that which is evil, but that which is good. He that doeth good is of God: but he that doeth evil hath not seen God.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">If I could just ask that everyone reading this consider seriously what influences you allow for yourself and your children because as my title says, influence can make or break. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">I hope this post makes you think.</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-33049765241142744102022-07-15T12:38:00.007-05:002022-07-15T12:46:14.093-05:00The Keeping of Our Parents<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiR2ZTZslUzoneqfl5SIgwxjkBiBOq9-IB54LczKV8o7WH6P6ANADdfF8jH5yQXMVe_ksunA-vmlwn-inKS52e7IhQVKenNbrloeEXHsO_Vwr5RInwtnRc_u-f-f-kRvPM_6m7cVQ-gjgfeyVOkPgS8WmklitXV6hXJREETXok_xBTFWn7oGPFHlk5uVg/s294/elderly%20care.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="171" data-original-width="294" height="171" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiR2ZTZslUzoneqfl5SIgwxjkBiBOq9-IB54LczKV8o7WH6P6ANADdfF8jH5yQXMVe_ksunA-vmlwn-inKS52e7IhQVKenNbrloeEXHsO_Vwr5RInwtnRc_u-f-f-kRvPM_6m7cVQ-gjgfeyVOkPgS8WmklitXV6hXJREETXok_xBTFWn7oGPFHlk5uVg/s1600/elderly%20care.jpg" width="294" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Each of us begins life with a parent or parents to take care of us. They generally make sure we are fed, clothed, bathe regularly and have a good place to sleep. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I find it fascinating that God's plan was for things to reverse as we age. We begin life drooling and end it the same way if we live long enough! As our parents age we are suddenly the caregivers. It's now our job to make sure they eat, get dressed, bathe and have somewhere to get rest. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Let's throw in some dementia and the scenario changes moment by moment. Now the care takes great patience as you are often dealing with a 150 lb or more toddler who can throw a tantrum as well as any 2 yr old. (As any one of us can from time to time!) The difference is that 150 pounder is too big to manhandle and put to bed for a nap! They ask even more questions than the toddler and are often frustrated by your answers. Confusion over where they are and who they and everyone else is can be an ongoing battle. Which can again lead to more angry outbursts. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">The mind is such a complex thing! One minute they can spout out their spouse's social security number but 30 seconds later cannot tell you when or where they were married. It's sad. As a matter of fact Dementia is a cruel illness that destroys dignity! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">They often become the poster child for ADHD and cannot sit still for more than 5 minutes as they pace the floor, open and close cabinets, move objects from place to place and turn fans and lights off and on. You think to yourself "My 2 yr old grandson is less active"! Then your heart breaks as you watch this unfold before your eyes over and over in any given day. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhm1x1IMsuCrn4Yg66Sr4Vp6HtLBSwOXSIG6mw1J0q_zgqS1HQZ7zJ4u9O8k5wysp-sP3RlruxqDnTQl-sxZY1nfyOtMbUpfW-XB8fvYUFwQ0Ei50TtXf32yVy5NIItZG0szWGrNSGtjj4HFgeTW3M8CRr17YLFWvaXFNzhM7qbAQrqOkWl5jx_wvD1uA/s551/1754391528-tumblr_nbjcw8SeA81sr467uo1_1280.webp" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="550" data-original-width="551" height="319" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhm1x1IMsuCrn4Yg66Sr4Vp6HtLBSwOXSIG6mw1J0q_zgqS1HQZ7zJ4u9O8k5wysp-sP3RlruxqDnTQl-sxZY1nfyOtMbUpfW-XB8fvYUFwQ0Ei50TtXf32yVy5NIItZG0szWGrNSGtjj4HFgeTW3M8CRr17YLFWvaXFNzhM7qbAQrqOkWl5jx_wvD1uA/s320/1754391528-tumblr_nbjcw8SeA81sr467uo1_1280.webp" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">All you want is for them to be who they were all your life. Yet, roles are reversed and you are now provider, protector and caregiver. Yes! Much patience and endurance is needed! The bible says in </span><i style="font-family: verdana;"><b>Proverbs 23:22 - Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.</b> </i><span style="font-family: verdana;">Making good and right choices isn't easy as you decide what is best for them. </span></span><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-50689387337733961462022-07-07T15:17:00.005-05:002022-07-07T15:17:59.316-05:00The Knowing of Hard Things<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil22_76lW0yiIzzlboBXiUdtFVXkRQBCGBKtqNq6cLrpZioCKXJkekHkXpE5-TwpEFrz2qYJPyAwI_5BvlQdp2P5_AhfbgBH_uuUhaaMDsiW0i4YC8m_kQCZ1D-G8UEWnRqB3-Catag2Hf4PNv2YQ9-OG27hsVlEW_xix2K8ENI36iwolAg2HInAqDBw/s1015/knowing-things-is-hard-1024x512%20(2).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="361" data-original-width="1015" height="114" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil22_76lW0yiIzzlboBXiUdtFVXkRQBCGBKtqNq6cLrpZioCKXJkekHkXpE5-TwpEFrz2qYJPyAwI_5BvlQdp2P5_AhfbgBH_uuUhaaMDsiW0i4YC8m_kQCZ1D-G8UEWnRqB3-Catag2Hf4PNv2YQ9-OG27hsVlEW_xix2K8ENI36iwolAg2HInAqDBw/s320/knowing-things-is-hard-1024x512%20(2).jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">There are some occupations that require those involved in them to basically keep secrets. They are to tuck away the hard things and are not allowed to discuss those things with anyone else. My sister is an ER nurse and recently she sent a group text to me and our other sister to pray for a serious situation. She shared no pertinent details such as names or even gender but just a few general facts to allow us to know how to pray for the person and for her also as it was difficult for her mentally. It dawned on me after I prayed that it must be so hard to see patients come in with very serious injury or illness and understand how dire things are and still be professional and give comfort and aid to the patient and the family members. I'm grateful that when she is overwhelmed in a situation that her first reaction is to contact us so that she can draw from the One who can help most through our prayers. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Doctors and all in the medical field, police officers, social workers, and those in ministry must keep their knowledge confidential. This knowing of hard things can at times be difficult to bear alone. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Being a burden bearer can be lonely and if you are not careful you can allow the knowledge to overwhelm you and depression can sink in. Being a former pastor's wife allowed me to understand all of this in an up close and personal way. My husband knew more things than I did, though we more often than not, did counseling together. Still, his burdens were much greater. Knowing all about everyone's trials is one of the downsides to ministry life. Being upbeat and positive and smiling as you carry the burdens of so many others can wear on a person. It takes the grace of God to bring peace in the midst of the knowledge. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I have known firefighters and first responders who have nightmares because of the gruesomeness they have witnessed. For them, I think it is not so much that they can't share what they witness if they leave out names it's more that most people don't want to hear gory details of the things they see. It's too much for the average person without training so they get to know those hard things with only their co-workers. It's probably what helps them bond as a unit. Very much like those who fight together in a war. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Anyhoo, just a shout out to those who must know the hard things and keep it to themselves. And remember this the next time someone with a tough job seems detached or aloof because they are just needing some time to process through and compose themselves so that they don't expose too much about the situation. </span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-89030161912074040172022-06-23T13:40:00.003-05:002022-06-23T13:40:49.430-05:00God's Favor is Two-Fold<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPgvQHBpHv4PWNit0aNGBmYXXu5M8L7X2pDJdt3WawlKbOQf2bubsYueZmoRt8np6nZqb7Mw-LEaFGxB9KWDXQW3L_O5Tsahn5C51NrEgN4r0HpQppigYaumJ3LcS3xdQZQKn7rJ2rqtfQYl4mcTmhwz7Xv9jdU6LrldehCUeMmYzlgygN3QrsaSiUIg/s1400/Favor.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1400" data-original-width="1400" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPgvQHBpHv4PWNit0aNGBmYXXu5M8L7X2pDJdt3WawlKbOQf2bubsYueZmoRt8np6nZqb7Mw-LEaFGxB9KWDXQW3L_O5Tsahn5C51NrEgN4r0HpQppigYaumJ3LcS3xdQZQKn7rJ2rqtfQYl4mcTmhwz7Xv9jdU6LrldehCUeMmYzlgygN3QrsaSiUIg/s320/Favor.png" width="320" /></a></div><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">I have heard preachers say for years that we can't earn God's favor and that His love is unconditional. Something struck me on my drive home from church last night as I listened to a Christian music cd. When it comes to salvation the above is true. However, to please Him and to receive His blessings; we ABSOLUTELY</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: xx-large;"> earn, often times. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Earthly parents give and withhold blessings and gifts and favors to their children based on their behavior. So, why wouldn't God, the ultimate Father? Besides, over and over in scripture we are told that He does so!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">In no particular order...</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Psalm 84:11 - For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. (from them that walk uprightly...those that do right!)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">1 John 3:22 - And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Jeremiah 7:23 - But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">1 Peter 3:9 - Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. (don't retaliate so you can receive a blessing)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Psalm 3:3-4 - Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Hebrews 13:16 - But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Proverbs 16:7 - When a man's ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Hebrews 11:5 - By faith Enoch was translated that he should not see death; and was not found, because God had translated him: for before his translation he had this testimony, that he pleased God. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Ephesians 6:2 - Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Colossians 3:20 - Children obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Exodus 20:12 - Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Psalm 37:4 - Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Proverbs 11:20 - They that are of a froward heart are abomination to the LORD: but such as are upright in their way are his delight.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Hebrews 12:28-29 - Wherefore we receiving a kingdom which cannot be moved, let us have grace, whereby we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">For our God is a consuming fire. (serve God <i><u>acceptably</u></i> with <i><u>reverence</u></i> and <i><u>godly fear</u></i>...not any old way we choose!)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Ephesians 5:1-11 - Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Be not ye therefore partakers with them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">(For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Proverbs 3:11-12 - My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Revelation 3:19 - As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">So God's favor is indeed two-fold! We cannot do anything to earn salvation. It's free! Ephesians 2:8-9 - For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Not of works, lest any man should boast.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Grace is unmerited favor....getting something we absolutely do not deserve. But God sent Jesus to pay for our sins. We cannot do good deeds, go to church, read our bibles or give money to earn our salvation. We just have to accept the gift God gave. We have to trust what Jesus did on the cross and ONLY that.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">However, we CAN earn His favor, His pleasure, His delight, His blessings or His chastisement by our conduct. Personally, I want to please Him. I want to avoid chastisement as much as possible. Of course I understand that not all trials that happen are due to sin and sometimes it's just because God is allowing them to mold, shape and strengthen us but I desire to please Him and walk in His ways as much as I can muster. Don't you? Just some thoughts to consider.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;"> </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: xx-large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-58438070583819209002022-05-22T14:33:00.004-05:002022-05-22T14:33:59.802-05:00Invite God to Your Marriage<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjRPft_PqKUsTbwGwiTdz5xKm1hCSkoyNFuF2F3temSvLYljrI-G3r5KcY7m2M8_u0MJZO7ZA1ya-Je6pXF0TSxPAJnOenWaXbxTT_BTvax7s73ojzMMgMosuZEUPInemaXWMKZz7G6TvMhNAKL7GDUG6N0JflL6wWYEHUMHGZw76oSWLM2fEhqIINlg/s224/god%20welcome.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="224" data-original-width="224" height="224" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjRPft_PqKUsTbwGwiTdz5xKm1hCSkoyNFuF2F3temSvLYljrI-G3r5KcY7m2M8_u0MJZO7ZA1ya-Je6pXF0TSxPAJnOenWaXbxTT_BTvax7s73ojzMMgMosuZEUPInemaXWMKZz7G6TvMhNAKL7GDUG6N0JflL6wWYEHUMHGZw76oSWLM2fEhqIINlg/s1600/god%20welcome.png" width="224" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Hello you few regular readers! I apologize for being absent for so long. I really do try to get at least one post a month in on this blog but lately life has been a blur. Quite frankly, I've been just worn out. My mind has had trouble focusing and gathering thoughts into anything coherent. I jot down ideas in my notebook but don't always have a chance to develop them into a good post. Anyhoo, today I want to encourage every wife and soon to be wife out there to invite God right into the center of your marriage.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">You may think that you are a bible believing Christian and therefore this is just a given. However, it is not! We must make a conscious effort to put God in His rightful place within our marriage. Because we are human and because our husbands are physically here in front of us, we can make him the center of our lives. We can get so busy doing around the house and for our husband and for the kids that we put God on the backburner or give Him the leftover time we feel we can spare. This is not the best way to have a personal and close walk with the Lord.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">How do we invite God to our marriage? Well, let's see....<b><i><u>literally</u></i></b> invite Him. Ask Him to be right there in the center of the relationship. I think it should be a part of every Christian's wedding vows! Ask Him to guide and direct daily. Ask Him to help you each to forgive when the other messes up and causes hurt. Ask Him to help you overlook the annoying flaws and irritating habits that drive you bonkers some days. So, I reckon the first way is to pray. Ask for His help. Ask Him to be a part. I think this should be done together as a couple but if one spouse isn't willing the other can certainly pray on behalf of the marriage relationship. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">#2 - Read and study the bible <b><i><u>together</u></i></b>. You will grow closer to one another and closer to God when you grow together in His Word. This is a guarantee! I have proven this over the past 20 years. We are talking about marriage here but I might include that as your children grow old enough to read and understand, it will go far for your family to read and study together and invites God into the whole family unit. This will also help your children to understand why you take the stands against the world that you do and help them to make decisions based on the Word of God instead of peer pressure. It will ground them in their faith beyond what you can imagine. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">#3 - Get involved in ministries at the church and in your community <b><i><u>together</u></i></b>. Working together in a common goal serving, unites hearts to one another and to God. It also builds eternal rewards in heaven which will lead to hearing "Well done thou good and faithful servant" someday.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">#4 - Pray <b><i><u>together</u></i></b> for others. When you know of someone who is in need, of course you can pray alone but as a couple it can be even more powerful. Jesus said "where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst". Also, as you take turns praying over the person or persons in need, one may remember a detail to add that the other hadn't thought of but is an important detail to include. For example one may pray for the immediate need of healing in a situation while the other may remember to pray for peace as the person goes through it or for the doctors and nurses involved. Get what I mean? </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I hope this post has been an encouragement and made you think. Invite God to Your Marriage, especially if you never have or if you have drifted from the idea.</span></div><br /><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-90176879049567174132022-03-22T14:09:00.001-05:002022-03-22T14:09:20.637-05:00Church Should Be A Refuge<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNuu1QFSPenp7LsWXsceeeF2vEBOBmK4R-T9MDhehTux7IegyQti-6QzILXoDaGuKHHozXAWosbl8RN-EH56BiLH25tm3IbgmwoS0vbFMZJq1o6eHytEo6PHjfx6hzquIqVgPOh_s0oRXNsvItEnXEEVVY30EMKqwmsJlo5PwbIeh4eGKKYZsYoNmgwA/s261/church%20family.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="193" data-original-width="261" height="193" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNuu1QFSPenp7LsWXsceeeF2vEBOBmK4R-T9MDhehTux7IegyQti-6QzILXoDaGuKHHozXAWosbl8RN-EH56BiLH25tm3IbgmwoS0vbFMZJq1o6eHytEo6PHjfx6hzquIqVgPOh_s0oRXNsvItEnXEEVVY30EMKqwmsJlo5PwbIeh4eGKKYZsYoNmgwA/s1600/church%20family.png" width="261" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I have always said that my church should be my refuge, my safe haven so to speak. It should be just like a family home. It should be a place to shut out the world of evil and wickedness and be able to rest. However, in many churches that is not the case. I have been in churches in the past where I was attacked and evil spoken of when what was being said wasn't true. I have had times where I was excluded from the "group" and not been invited along to a lunch or a shopping spree or a game night. The older I get, the less these things bother me but when I was younger, it hurt deeply. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I expect to go into the world, at the grocery store or gas station or other place of business and possibly be treated poorly. I should NOT have to endure that in my refuge! Nor should anyone else! No one should get so nervous walking into their home church that they are sick to their stomach or have shaky hands because they are uncertain about how they will be treated. They shouldn't have to worry if they will be excluded or included in conversations or befriended by others. Personally, I think it's a shame that anyone would have to endure that at their place of work or an organization for which they volunteer but how much worse for them to experience that at their safe haven of a church?! </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">I realize that not all people will click in personality but all should still be kind, friendly, and included. Really! How hard is it to be kind and friendly or at least civil?! Too many people do not know how to have correct relationships with others. They do not know how to be inclusive or to even show interest in another's life and what's happening with them. They only seem to care about self. Self is what is so wrong with this world! </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">We can do better as church families. Don't start a conversation with someone or ask them a question and then walk away before they can answer as though you really weren't interested but was just being cordial. I want to go on record as saying that I am not personally experiencing anything I have voiced but I have observed it happening to others over the past several months and even couple of years. I try to make a point to speak to the person that I feel was inappropriately treated. I am not perfect at that but it is something I strive for. I think we sometimes are careless with the feelings of others who very well may be at a breaking point and carrying a burden that no one is aware they have or feels like they do not matter. JUST BE KIND! Church should be a refuge!</span></div><br /><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-51178932932617786572022-02-11T13:31:00.004-06:002022-02-11T13:31:59.163-06:00That's My Job...It's What I do<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjQ3Ecb-1Bvjo8tMS6C1HhD7bXSupHJNamXWvmJltPXa3QLr8Jp0cb5u6UiYJzjX8Wbd68pwIwBcyj3_O-wwHjGJcbBLy7bjoene2ExLLv6aZWr-caVrse0TxGhURXjppiro84Oi7FjMpN9EW-uWOaAv2P9AR3FsWTw1GyYMPK6YT-uE8-9ZkjhMoflTw=s221" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="152" data-original-width="221" height="152" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjQ3Ecb-1Bvjo8tMS6C1HhD7bXSupHJNamXWvmJltPXa3QLr8Jp0cb5u6UiYJzjX8Wbd68pwIwBcyj3_O-wwHjGJcbBLy7bjoene2ExLLv6aZWr-caVrse0TxGhURXjppiro84Oi7FjMpN9EW-uWOaAv2P9AR3FsWTw1GyYMPK6YT-uE8-9ZkjhMoflTw" width="221" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">There's an old country song of Conway Twitty by this title. It's about a father and son's relationship. As a parent we have different job duties at different stages of our children's lives. When they are babies and toddlers we teach them all the physical things they need to learn as they grow. We teach them to talk, sit up, eat, drink, walk and potty train. As they grow into older children, we teach them how to dress themselves, make their beds, brush their teeth, do some chores and ride their bikes. As teens we teach them to drive, fill out applications for jobs and/or college and all about dating or courting. Even in adulthood we are still training. The difference from childhood and adulthood is that we should probably wait to be asked for the help or advice. If we've done a good job while they're still under our roof, then they will know how to conduct themselves wisely and responsibly as adults in the world and will still seek our help and council when they are unsure. That's our job. --To help when we can. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Some of us have many jobs. Some are daily out in the workforce. Others are homemakers or stay at home moms. One of my job titles is wife. That comes with many duties that cover a multitude of various things. It can include cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, running errands or tending to phone calls that must be made, caring for the farm animals and yes, also having a romantic, physical relationship. It absolutely involves being a support system and cheer leader! That's my job! It keeps me quite busy! We strive to have a biblical marriage and home as much as possible. I enjoy being a "keeper at home". I LOVE that I am not required to daily get up and report to a boss outside the home. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I have other job titles, too, such as sister, daughter, friend, fixer and counselor. The duties for these are to listen, encourage, rebuke when necessary, help in any way I can, and just be available. Ever since I was a kid, these last few job titles have fallen upon me easily. I have always been someone who has had people open up to me and share with me their troubles, burdens or when they just need to vent. Perfect strangers have done this! I have stood inside stores and had strangers just open up and pour out their heart like we were old friends! I am not sure why but even at times in my life when I have tried to step back from these roles, I just can't seem to do it. It's just who I am, I reckon. These are apparently, forever, my job. It's what I do! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">The job title of Christian has some of the same duties that fall under the previous titles but my most important duty is to tell people about the love and saving grace of Jesus. Along with that is to live so that they will want to listen when I do speak to them about Jesus. If you are a Christian, it's your job. It's what you should be doing! So be like Nike and just do it!! 😉</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-86917044909694376042022-01-19T10:08:00.005-06:002022-01-19T10:10:36.570-06:00The "I Don't Understands" of Life<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjxHwNNL8xcoro8HHN9wP0Cedv-_LnTc4NvgZwBV3URxVgmgru818zCbbNBnW4YMUvOVq-gbb5NwRkinw5lV5Pd1LGFURiPPBQQgW_Mc_ozOQ41cjWij1UjGMzPPYWd4GSg-MNTM2Nroir5wL0iZJ4pTYLDsT06iZMI83ZERHH8B7nexL_OofO-LeX0Vg=s225" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="225" data-original-width="225" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjxHwNNL8xcoro8HHN9wP0Cedv-_LnTc4NvgZwBV3URxVgmgru818zCbbNBnW4YMUvOVq-gbb5NwRkinw5lV5Pd1LGFURiPPBQQgW_Mc_ozOQ41cjWij1UjGMzPPYWd4GSg-MNTM2Nroir5wL0iZJ4pTYLDsT06iZMI83ZERHH8B7nexL_OofO-LeX0Vg" width="225" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">So many times in life I find myself saying, "I don't understand". I don't understand the craziness in the world. I don't understand the nonchalant attitude of many Christians being careless with their testimony. I don't understand the meanness of people. However, I can usually shake my head and shrug these off and chalk it up to humanity and sin natures. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">The other "I don't understands" I must leave to God and trust Him and His plan. There have been times when I thought "what good can possibly come from this?" Even when I have had these thoughts and hurt so deeply within, I have still chosen to trust. As Job said, Though he slay me, yet will I trust him. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Still, I don't understand why I have been surrounded by death all my life. I have spent time at the funeral home in support of loved ones since I was 4 years old. I don't understand why my dad died when I was 12. I don't understand why my mom got lung cancer 5 years after quitting smoking and then passing after a 14 month battle. I don't understand getting to start a church and then having to close the doors 7 years later due to lack of growth and finances. Then later I don't understand trying so hard to impact people in Oklahoma only to see the church not grow and seemingly having no influence on the people. I don't understand why I survived being hit by a train when my friend, Warren didn't. I don't understand nearly dying yet surviving COVID and others don't. Every time I find out that another person who has COVID dies, I feel guilty. It reminds me to be grateful and to try to live up to the second chance God has given. I also must tell myself that God decided to let me live and chose to take those others. But the initial pang of guilt is always there. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I often don't understand what God is doing but I trust Him. <b><i>Jeremiah 17:7 - Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.</i></b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><b><i>Isaiah 55:8 - For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.</i></b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><b><i>Romans 11:33 - O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out!</i></b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">God is sovereign. It's His ball game. He is not only the coach but the umpire, the team owner and He gets to make the rules of the game of life.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I hope this may help someone who is struggling today with the "I don't understands" of life.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-12459692827282005172022-01-11T13:17:00.003-06:002022-01-11T13:21:54.718-06:00What Women Want<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh_O9PIdkViW_nn7Raf_d7MHKb99njxDYndw4sC_CKFEEiAtcGEXDXa4CDQrXRIj2N8sKtKd3bXbKrbjvl61rasskjFu2MFAx7gvbcJ1wsMZg72VTO84c8o-wb4kCWmNtMVDD-oGTfE8hhr6yTGHIkZsFRD4m8zU8z6dOy7SXllJFtANPGG6N8MsjeSDA=s221" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="73" data-original-width="221" height="73" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh_O9PIdkViW_nn7Raf_d7MHKb99njxDYndw4sC_CKFEEiAtcGEXDXa4CDQrXRIj2N8sKtKd3bXbKrbjvl61rasskjFu2MFAx7gvbcJ1wsMZg72VTO84c8o-wb4kCWmNtMVDD-oGTfE8hhr6yTGHIkZsFRD4m8zU8z6dOy7SXllJFtANPGG6N8MsjeSDA" width="221" /></a></div><br /> <span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">I think I may have blogged about this idea years ago but it's been on my mind lately so I thought I'd do it again today. There's a lot of talk about what women want and there's even a whole movement out there demanding it. I plan to touch on the things that are wanted by most women deep down in their souls. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><b><i>I believe all women want a hero</i></b>. Despite that there are many who say they don't need a man and can do everything themselves, I do think they want someone they can admire and who will save them from the things that frighten them. And yes! Everyone has fears. Fears of failing. Fears of not being good enough, etc. Whether they admit it or not, in their hearts they know themselves and what fears they have. The hero can take many forms. Maybe he fixes a broken appliance or car so that the repairman doesn't have to be called. Maybe he opens the jar of pickles that she was unable to open. Maybe he holds her hair while she throws up and helps her back to the sick bed. Maybe he changes the baby's diaper so she can have a break. Maybe he cooks or cleans to give a break. Any or all of these can create a hero in a woman's mind and heart. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Often times, it's not about what a man does but how a woman FEELS around them. <b><i>Women want to feel chosen</i></b>. Chosen over anyone else, especially other women. Don't get me wrong they want to feel chosen over the buddies, too! Few things can melt the heart like hearing "I'd choose you again". </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">This leads right into and goes along with <i style="font-weight: bold;">women want to be a priority. </i>No one wants to feel they are at the bottom of the to do list. They want their feelings and desires to be important. They want to be considered. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><b><i>Women want to be and feel supported</i></b>. They want their ideas, thoughts and dreams to be supported and not poo pooed or discounted. It hurts the heart when someone doesn't feel supported. They feel like they no longer matter. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><b><i>Women want to be appreciated for the little things</i></b>. No one likes to be taken for granted. It's important to tell someone that you notice the extras or just appreciate the everyday things. I almost died from covid back in September 2021 and since then my husband has expressed the little things that he's grateful for that I do for him. This makes my heart happy in knowing he appreciates me and he'd miss me if I were gone. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><b><i>Women want to feel gorgeous</i></b>. This happens most when being told that they are by people they care about. They want it said even on days when they feel like they look awful. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Of course I realize that most of the things I mentioned are also appreciated and desired by men, too. It's just called being human. It's being kind one to another. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">Most women I know do not want to take power from a man. Most don't want to try to compete with or be like men. There's a world philosophy out there that says all women are envious of men. (they use a term that I'm refraining from using because I don't feel it would be lady-like) While there may be some women like that, I don't believe it's the norm. In reality, true man envy is seeing the line at the women's bathroom and none at the men's or knowing your husband can jump out of the car and go beside it while you have to run inside the house urgently! 😅</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;">One more thing.<b><i> What women <u>REALLY</u> want is a very comfortable bra and comfortable shoes!!!</i></b></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-87965694666794886552021-12-16T13:33:00.002-06:002021-12-16T13:33:48.065-06:00Taking off the Wonder Woman Outfit <p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiBlfwYOnwiJlyQF58oEyuc3YoBFl7JZfr9m0fPlXIhdftFzzyFsESacMo5Uml4RLfXdUpEzJAyql4v4o1qtI7BMrjCUGqJ6Gzzu_GX4006Eo-OaK_9vqDabHrMt4Sigx579-DyGBBioiaMOdDPW8CvaKE6GkGn7E3nIXmDDNSG1-J5NiFalbi02_Idyw=s259" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="194" data-original-width="259" height="194" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiBlfwYOnwiJlyQF58oEyuc3YoBFl7JZfr9m0fPlXIhdftFzzyFsESacMo5Uml4RLfXdUpEzJAyql4v4o1qtI7BMrjCUGqJ6Gzzu_GX4006Eo-OaK_9vqDabHrMt4Sigx579-DyGBBioiaMOdDPW8CvaKE6GkGn7E3nIXmDDNSG1-J5NiFalbi02_Idyw" width="259" /></a></div><br /> <span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;">This post will not be what most will expect. I want to talk to those of you who have taken on a mindset role of Wonder Woman. So many are strong women mentally and physically --well me not so much physically anymore! LOL :) but I consider myself a strong woman. We tend to try hard to live up to everyone's expectations and demands. The problem with that is we take on too much. Too much for our minds and bodies to endure. We become overwhelmed and worn out in mind, body and spirit. Then we crash! You see, just because a woman is strong doesn't mean she can do anything and EVERYTHING. Nor should she be expected to do it all. Everyone has limitations. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;">Just because Wonder Woman could stop flying bullets, keep up with Superman and apprehend all the evil bad guys and never need rest all while looking perfect and sexy doesn't mean all women can do it. Yet so many of us try. I see you! I see you trying to do it all. To be the great mom, wonderful wife, awesome grandma, terrific teacher, best sister, perfect nurse, great care giver, best _____ (fill in the blank) and feeling like you fail on a regular basis. Or, if you are not failing, you're running yourself ragged and into a frenzy while running on empty and on the verge of a total break down. By the way, Wonder Woman is a character in a comic book and TV show. She's not real! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;">STOP! Take off your Wonder Woman outfit and take a bubble bath, slip into some comfy, lazing about clothes and relax and take time to clear your mind. Or do something you enjoy today. Do not think about all you "need to do" or "should be doing". Remind yourself that you can't pour from an empty pitcher. You must go to the faucet and replenish so that you have something to pour. Figure out where and what your faucet is. LEARN THE WORD "NO"! Saying "No" is the first step to setting boundaries for yourself. Stop trying to please those who can't be pleased. Stop caring about opinions of those, who in the grand scheme of things, do not matter especially when they don't care about you and your needs. The world will not stop because you stop! Trust me, those around you that are draining your energy and making demands will figure out how to do for themselves. They will! LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT to live in survival mode where joy doesn't exist or smiles and laughter are too few and far between. People treat you the way that you allow them to treat you...ALWAYS. Respect yourself enough to demand better treatment. An easy step is to set boundaries. Boundaries shows others that you are not Wonder Woman and that you can't do anything and everything. Saying "No" will start the boundary process. Oh, those around you will not like it one bit. They are used to getting their way. They are used to you meeting every demand and expectation. But, stepping back from responsibilities dumped on you and saying "No" once in awhile will force them to do for themselves or figure out how to get things accomplished on their own. It may even help them realize how much they have taken you for granted. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;">I'm going to share a picture to encourage you ...</span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiQ_6lpvSbj92gXqU7FDsNsJYWNIFN5ASMljmGMKtanPeL9aGMdthubOuV58Fdb_KWYafJFBU1H9fMNHzWvgkH6jeE6ElqKM7qpOT5pXf3gYd9C3wPW_kmGnTlXuwvEdyOLS2GFzdaNU64SNb2XbIW-QDRmjp_ieNshBfNU6zaN-lMe5O-Y-cq6WLukyQ=s550" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="550" data-original-width="506" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiQ_6lpvSbj92gXqU7FDsNsJYWNIFN5ASMljmGMKtanPeL9aGMdthubOuV58Fdb_KWYafJFBU1H9fMNHzWvgkH6jeE6ElqKM7qpOT5pXf3gYd9C3wPW_kmGnTlXuwvEdyOLS2GFzdaNU64SNb2XbIW-QDRmjp_ieNshBfNU6zaN-lMe5O-Y-cq6WLukyQ=s320" width="294" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;"> We can take off this Wonder Woman outfit and be ourselves, in our own clothes and watch some of the stress and feelings of being overwhelmed and anxiousness disappear. The outfit will still fit when we're ready to put it back on and take on the world again. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: large;">Hope this encourages someone. If it does, please share! The more shares, the more people might read and follow my blog. Thanks. Have a blessed day!</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-11568151861557524402021-12-01T09:16:00.003-06:002021-12-01T09:16:38.302-06:00The Time Bomb of Menopause<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgn-ECTVoOmAMSDBveAFC_GQ2i2XawcmD3ItNQwk_-mhdC02-FRXb9HR_AaKWGmVJeSnA9EHI3L6dCFYcvLT_zjeIo9AMadG6641Hsn3FbbXmy1aGNCD8MOPDvC2pWPxWo0BfM-3jkPZN59/s279/time+bomb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="181" data-original-width="279" height="181" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgn-ECTVoOmAMSDBveAFC_GQ2i2XawcmD3ItNQwk_-mhdC02-FRXb9HR_AaKWGmVJeSnA9EHI3L6dCFYcvLT_zjeIo9AMadG6641Hsn3FbbXmy1aGNCD8MOPDvC2pWPxWo0BfM-3jkPZN59/s0/time+bomb.jpg" width="279" /></a></div><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">I say time bomb because for me that's how it seems to have happened. The hormones which began ticking at age 15 have been tick-tocking away all these years until BOOM! Two weeks after turning 55, almost like a bomb going off, the hot flashes began. Don't get me wrong, other symptoms have come on more slowly and were more sporadic but it was like the hot flashes hit over night! As someone who has always been cold, these outbreaks of hot and sweats are a new experience. Finally! I am now having my husband complain of being cold as I am the one turning the furnace down! </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">The beginning of "Senior" life is indeed a new ball game. I say "senior" because at restaurants you often get a Senior Discount once you reach 55. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica; font-size: large;">From what I hear hot flashes are only one symptom of this time bomb. There may also be mood swings, hair loss, and hair growth in new places such as the upper lip, painful intercourse, joint pain and memory issues and yes, weight gain, especially in the waist area. Any or all of these can seemingly hit over night. This is our reward for living to this point?! This is the trade off for the gained experience, knowledge and wisdom?! I'm not sure I like it one bit! I think this little scenario may have to be one of my "God Questions" when I get to heaven...."Why did you do that?" lol</span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-32799631805471553812021-10-27T13:54:00.001-05:002021-10-27T13:54:23.331-05:00The Importance of Touch <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglLYhCZZoy7jyW8sBVMRuv35YRyw9Ue4o2hAuhzD3JzWo75oxcLhcOcUc_vCxNWyIWMJz2GyZy0q9zJsbmWeSQw-_YC4rY7o2wFtUbYmdg1qDuTFxArQfEnnX1IxlWQMbHcv14lehjk8eW/s225/touch.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="225" data-original-width="225" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglLYhCZZoy7jyW8sBVMRuv35YRyw9Ue4o2hAuhzD3JzWo75oxcLhcOcUc_vCxNWyIWMJz2GyZy0q9zJsbmWeSQw-_YC4rY7o2wFtUbYmdg1qDuTFxArQfEnnX1IxlWQMbHcv14lehjk8eW/s0/touch.jpg" width="225" /></a></div><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: x-large;">I think so many take for granted how important touch is to people. Covid has certainly destroyed touch with all the rules and now habit of social distancing. Masks keep people from seeing expressions. You can no longer share smiles. I'm over the whole mask thing and only wear one where I am absolutely required to do so, such as a doctor's office or hospital. Lack of touch is the worst part of dealing with covid on a daily national level. I was recently hospitalized with covid and I can say from experience that I longed for hugs and touches from my husband and the rest of my family. I even cried some days and expressed to the nurses how much I just wanted to see and hold my husband's hand. Once my husband insisted on them moving me to a room with a window where he and my kids and grandkids could see me and we could talk on the phone, it helped my spirits so much. It still wasn't touch but it made me fight to get better. The nursing homes did a disservice to the elderly when they refused to let their families into see them and touch them. The employees could come and go yet family couldn't. By the way, it was medical staff that brought covid to the nursing home patients! --Every single time! If they were or are worried about covid spreading, they would pay nurses and staff hazard pay and lock them in the facility until danger has passed. Because of not being allowed to see their families, many of the elderly fell into deep depressions and quite frankly, gave up. This harmed their physical well being as well. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: x-large;">Touch helps both the physical and mental state of anyone or even any animal. A calming and soothing voice also helps. It is seen in the NICU when nurses are caring for newborn babies. It is seen at the vet as they talk to the animals and pet them gently or hold them. These days doctors have discovered that touch is so important that when a new mom first delivers, they immediately place the newborn on the mom's chest for skin to skin contact. Yet, hospitals and nursing homes are keeping people from this very important asset!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: x-large;">IT STINKS! And I might even go so far as to say it's wrong. My husband, who had just gotten over covid himself, (so wasn't in danger) wasn't allowed in my room to help me make decisions about my health choices yet the hospital chaplain got to be in there. Bob was furious. He hadn't set eyes on me since leaving me at the ER 3 days earlier and was only being allowed to see me on a zoom call. I looked bad and could barely speak. There is just something wrong with that scenario!! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: x-large;">My point is that touch is IMPORTANT! Hug and touch your loved ones daily! Never miss an opportunity because it's more therapeutic than most people realize. Scientists have proven that petting an animal brings joy and happiness to those who partake. How much more important is touch between people?! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: trebuchet; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-15764318275081344612021-10-15T13:17:00.003-05:002021-10-15T13:17:38.956-05:00Life as a Mule<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuO6_hB6fjKRYk5-5jXPRFG3HaDb8OtaO-_XgAWBDCLOqwrBT_rih-zUTY98l_j02nh8pRBG2hXbpsXZSEVRyBRx__xyUdgXfJTyPbO75bqxNmdq_AxkrRF7O3P2BX0LTUUgsXGOMSEhwg/s300/stubborn-mule-FI.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="160" data-original-width="300" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuO6_hB6fjKRYk5-5jXPRFG3HaDb8OtaO-_XgAWBDCLOqwrBT_rih-zUTY98l_j02nh8pRBG2hXbpsXZSEVRyBRx__xyUdgXfJTyPbO75bqxNmdq_AxkrRF7O3P2BX0LTUUgsXGOMSEhwg/s0/stubborn-mule-FI.jpg" width="300" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Hello there! This is my first time blogging since my hospitalization from Covid and nearly dying during. I hope it will make sense since I still have a bit of trouble gathering my thoughts and articulating them. My short term memory has gotten much better but is not 100%. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I chose the title of this post because I am apparently stubborn as a mule when it comes to doing what the Lord wants. This is not the first time He has brought me to the brink of death to get my attention and move me in the right direction.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: x-large;"> </span><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">I have been quite backslidden the past 2 years or so, especially in attitude which then effected my works. I admit that I have not witnessed as I should and allowed myself to become jaded and cynical when it comes to dealing with flawed people. I felt I wasn't having an impact as a pastor's wife no matter how hard I tried during the last 6 years of our ministry. The last 2 years my effort became progressively less as I allowed myself to become discouraged at seeing what I felt was no influence or impact in others. Yes, I know that God only asks for faithfulness not success. I also know that you cannot make people do the right things or care or make right choices in their lives but you hope that as you try hard to live Christ-like before them and to teach them God's Word that something will impact. I know that this is something that most people in ministry struggle with and I am watching it play out as a layperson and not the one in charge currently. Even large churches are struggling to see pews full, get volunteers to commit to anything or help in any way and seeing the faithful few become battered and worn out. It has been somewhat comforting to know that it wasn't just us and that most churches are struggling. I suppose it's a sign of the times. It's not that the world cares nothing about God and His Word, but it seems many Christians do not care either. It's a "me first world" and "my wants world" and that has changed the church world which in turn has allowed our country as a whole to turn their backs on God. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">OK back to my title. I didn't even realize I was being a mule and so backslidden in my work for the Lord. I only knew I was exhausted and feeling like it was all fruitless. When you're heart turns negative and cynical you begin backing up and no longer being prompted by the Holy Spirit or you start ignoring the Holy Spirit. I know now that's what I was doing. When God has you teetering between life and death and you are coming to grips with the possibility of leaving this world and your loved ones, it gets real, quickly! I had peace once I decided I was OK with dying or living which ever God chose. When He decided to miraculously heal starting the next day, I knew once again that God had a plan and purpose for my life. As I said, He has brought me to this point before and I have struggled for many years wondering if I was doing His purpose and plan. Going forward I no longer wonder. I am positive that I am to share my healing story and tell others about the saving grace of God through His son, Jesus. I am also going to try to stop being a mule. At least about listening to the Holy Spirit. Being stubborn has it's place. It also means I will not back up from standing on God's Word or telling others what it says. It also gave me determination in that hospital bed to set goals and fight to go home to my family. I did whatever the doctors told me I should to gain strength; eat, rest, sleep on my stomach to help my lungs. Doctors and even nurses told me that my goals weren't attainable. (It was to go home by that weekend) I even resided myself to what they were explaining to me and that it would not be until the next week. However, I DID go home on that Saturday! The doctor admitted it was miraculous and said I was the first from their hospital to be so close to death and then recover and was amazed at how quickly. I told her it was God healing. It was all Him. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Sometimes we wonder why God uses such drastic measures to reach some of us. I believe He does whatever He has to do. I also believe that sometimes it has less to do with us and more to do with those around us. It helped my husband and kids pray like they never had before and it taught them and my grandkids to trust God. And I will continue to use my experience to help to strengthen their minds and hearts toward trusting God no matter what God chooses. There is so much peace in this and ultimately we get no choice anyway. Why fight God? Obey Him, and have peace in trusting Him. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: large;">Hopefully this made sense. It took quite awhile to write as I tried to focus my thoughts. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7068974138278677927.post-62684686346479665742021-08-29T14:09:00.000-05:002021-08-29T14:09:01.972-05:00The Everyday Doesn't Have to be Disney World<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgK9I8jYTQw5IOjmXIDnIFnupIB4uSV_zqMO4t5QverBgUQqzAbzhlV8wLd6gbmrbtIwg_I6GAGqThmRBocp0bxrV59pTBxeh3S9vbRsxu7suZKoQm261qDOlHI1KNddL-1SK6NGfhM_aee/s522/small+everyday.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="522" data-original-width="500" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgK9I8jYTQw5IOjmXIDnIFnupIB4uSV_zqMO4t5QverBgUQqzAbzhlV8wLd6gbmrbtIwg_I6GAGqThmRBocp0bxrV59pTBxeh3S9vbRsxu7suZKoQm261qDOlHI1KNddL-1SK6NGfhM_aee/s320/small+everyday.png" width="307" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">It's been a few weeks since I have had a chance to post. Life has been super busy! Today I want to talk about traps that parents and grandparents fall into in their thinking. For the past 15 years or more, I've observed and even caught myself getting caught up in the fast pace, create grand experiences for the kids so everything is an adventure and fun and exciting. We think this needs to be done on a very regular basis. I'm not sure if it's because kids today are so easily bored because they have so much access to stimuli or if it's social media creating doubt and guilt in us so that we feel pressure to compete with what everyone else is doing. For me, I think it started maybe because I don't get to see my grandkids in person on a regular basis. Now that we have moved, that has changed with one set of kids. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">What I want everyone who reads this to realize is that everyday doesn't have to be Disney World fun. Simple everyday time spent playing with them is every bit as important as these grand, exciting experiences. Kids today have so much that many of them don't even know what they want if you ask them an idea for a present. They all seem to need to be constantly entertained by the adults in their lives. All over social media memes go around telling us to not purchase toys or games or gifts but rather give gift cards to have experiences. In other words, get them passes to the theme park or movies or mini golf or zip lining, etc. Well, I think we may be doing a disservice to these kids by doing that. Sure, if they are children that have never gotten to go experience something fun like that, then by all means help them go have a great experience once in awhile. On the other hand, the more they experience, the more bored they become with life. They are going to always be looking for the next big exciting thing to do. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">My own children didn't need me to play with them all the time. Neither did adults constantly need to entertain me. Making them play on their own forces them to use their imaginations and pushes their creativity. It makes them self-sufficient. Children are pretty resilient and will figure out how to get something done if allowed the time to do so. How do you think so many learn to build makeshift ladders to reach the candy or toy or game they want?</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Now back to the grandiose experiences, I am almost 55 years old and when I look back on my life and my childhood the things I miss most are not the great experiences but the little everyday things. I miss playing with my cousins. I miss them. I miss spending time with them. The everyday fun we had has burned memories into my brain that I still long for. Yes, I have had some great experiences in my time, but those are not what comes to my mind first. We played more Army and S.W.A.T (using whiffle ball bats and sticks as guns!) and cowboys and Indians than any group of cousins alive. Of this I am sure! We played and we played hard! Life was great! We played every kind of ball imaginable and we made up games to play together. We played in the dirt and the mud and swam in the river and never felt we were deprived because life was so much fun! Playing anything together was fun! We had rope swings and tree houses and we also had grapevines to swing on, too! The girls played dress up and house and we played in a net hammock for hours! We went sledding in the winter, built snow forts, built forts and club houses out of cinder blocks, climbed trees, pretended to be in a singing band and sang at the top of our lungs. We spent tons of time in the woods and in the fields catching grass hoppers and having water fights and when my kids were young they got to do the same things. My point is, the movies, parks, theme parks, traveling to other states, zoos and zip lining experiences were few and far between. And guess what, those few experiences are not the things that I miss. They are not what I look back on and think made my growing up life awesome. It was the time spent living everyday with those I loved. I had great cousins on both sides of my family and both sides of my family were inner twined because my mom and her siblings grew up with my dad and his siblings. My mind is flooded with spending the night at my cousin's houses or with my grandparents. My life was full of love and laughter and I had no doubt I was loved even when I messed up. No one can ask for more than that! </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Fun and laughter can come right at home in the house or in the yard! This is what makes a memorable life!</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: x-large;">Just something to think about. I shared my heart and my past today. Hope it makes you think and is a blessing.</span></div><br /><p></p>Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07627192661411025289noreply@blogger.com1