Money VS. Time

Had a discussion with someone not long ago about them working alot. This man feels he shows his love for his wife and kids by working alot and being a good provider. I understand that is how he was trained. What he was taught growing up by the example before him. To a point, it is even biblical for the Bible says that if a man won't provide for his household then he is worse than an infidel. Pretty harsh statement for sure.

I have always been one that believes that in any relationship; time spent is always more valuable and cherished than money spent. (of course, there are always exceptions to the rule for I know many people only care about material things) Yes, not having to worry about every nickel spent between paychecks is a good thing but if there is no time spent together between the paychecks, the relationships will deteriorate. There are many a household with missing parents (men and women due to jobs). There may technically be a parent for the home (living there) but in reality they are gone so much there is no time spent with the children. They are left to another's care or to themselves to raise. This will greatly effect the child as they grow up.

I think the man was somewhat perturbed with me because I told him that it didn't matter if he could buy his wife a fur coat every 6 months, if he was never around to hold her, kiss her, talk with her, etc. She will eventually get lonely and irritated with him for not being around enough. (His wife was there when I said it. I don't know what she thought but she kinda looked down.)Now, I know that not having enough to cover living expenses is also hard on a family but usually people work more and more hours so that they can buy more and more stuff. They want to upgrade to nicer stuff, or bigger stuff or extra stuff. Really? ...Is "stuff" what life is about? I am guilty of feeling good when I purchase something new just like everyone else so this is not a ridicule of others and I am guiltless. I'm just saying that most women and kids usually would rather have a day spent with them or a couple hours spent with them than have only gifts bought that get handed to them in a few minutes time and then that is the end of it. If a parent buys a game for their kids but then never plays the game with them; have they gained any value or cherishing in the kids mind? I say "No"!

Think back to your childhood or over your marriage or even over your life with friends and family. What are the things that stand out most in your mind? What are the best memories? Are they the ones where you got some great gift bought? Maybe, if it was a really special gift you wanted and IF you kept it a long time or still have it. But, more than likely your best memories of life are fun and happy times of love, laughter and being with someone you really cared about. When you close your eyes and dwell on your memories, what brings a smile to your face? Our memories essentially are our life's history. What makes you smile fondly?

Just something to ponder!