I got to hear my hubby preach recently and it inspired this post. Both love and like are important in a relationship. Quite frankly, "like" is harder to pull off than love. We are commanded in the bible to love others. However, we are not commanded to like them. We can love and show love because of God's commandment or because of respect for authority or whatever and still not like the person. Love is a choice. Like is not. Like is based on personality, character, and conduct.
I have been sure for many years that my husband loves me. I have not always been sure he likes me; that he likes the person I am. He has tried to assure me that he does but there have still been doubts off and on. His love, however, has helped to push those other feelings aside.
In relationships, especially marriages, hopefully both feelings exist. If both exist, the marriage has a better chance of lasting.
As I said above, liking someone, in my opinion is harder to pull off. Loving someone chooses to ignore the faults and love anyway. Liking someone usually means you don't even see the faults. You only see the traits that draw you to them. Like sees nice, funny, quiet, loud, serious, responsible, caring, determination, bravery, opinionated, and the list goes on. Like is the true things talked about at a funeral or memorial service. It's the things that are "liked" about a person that generally make up a person's dash or journey in life.
I hope to be someone that is generally liked as a person. Someone who is not talked negatively about when my name comes up or when I walk away from a group. Of course, you cannot be liked by every person and there will always be someone who you may rub the wrong way but hopefully there are more people in favor of you than that do not like being around you. Oh, yeah, if you like someone you absolutely love being around them!
Just a little thought provoker. Have a blessed day! 😊
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