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December 31, 2015

This World is Not My Home!

Wow! a second post in the same day! Can't help it. There's too much good stuff in Hebrews 11!

Verse 8 - By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whither he went. 
9 - By faith he sojourned in the land of promise, as in a strange country, dwelling in tabernacles with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise:
10 - For he looked for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God. 
13 - These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off, and were persuaded of them, and embraced them, and confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth.
14 - For they that say such things declare plainly that they seek a country.
15 - And truly, if they had been mindful of that country from whence they came out, they might have had opportunity to have returned. 
16 - But now they desire a better country, that is, an heavenly: wherefore God is not ashamed to be called their God: for he hath prepared for them a city. 

This passage of scripture shows clearly that living a life for God on this earth looking to the future of a heavenly home and rewards there is worth it even if we receive no benefit on this earth. Verse 13 says that they all died (all the OT people mentioned earlier in the chapter) not actually receiving the promise God made but holding to those promises and obeying no matter what. They kept their minds and hearts focused on the coming heavenly home they would have instead of focusing on the immediate moment of life. Verse 15 tells us that if they would have stayed focused on their past home and the hardships they were currently facing, they might have turned back instead of remaining obedient to God and clinging to His promises. 

Some people often question my life's choices to try to please God and serve Him but this passage reminds me not to be earthly minded but heavenly minded, not to focus on temporal but eternal. The end of verse 13 says that those people had confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on earth and then verse 14 says that those who say such things declare to everyone around them plainly that they seek a country different from this that they know is coming. This life is just a vapor, a drop in the bucket and we need to remember that whatever we are dealing with good or bad will come to pass. We are commanded in other Bible verses to lay up treasures in heaven and not on earth. Life here is so temporary! That doesn't mean that God will not provide blessings while we are here on earth for us to enjoy but we are not to be so focused on them that we forget about those coming blessings and rewards in heaven. 

This world is not my home, I'm just a passing through. My treasures are laid up somewhere beyond the blue. The angels beckon me from heaven's open door and I can't feel at home in this world anymore! Some days I'm so saddened and grieved by the events of this world that I truly long for that future coming country! A country where Jesus is King, and every knee shall bow and every tongue shall confess that Jesus is Lord. I'm on the winning side! Praise the Lord, I'm on the winning side. 

Your Life Leaves a Statement

I was reading in Hebrews 11 this morning and I've read this chapter many many times. The book of Hebrews is one of my favorite books of the Bible because it so explains the work of Christ compared to the Old Testament temple, sacrifice and priesthood. Anyhow, something jumped out at me today in verse 4. - By faith Abel offered unto God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain, by which he obtained witness that he was righteous, God testifying of his gifts: and by it he being dead yet speaketh.

His witness or testimony was that he was righteous! God testified of his gifts...talked about what he did. Then it goes on to say that even after Abel was dead, what he did still speaks! That is awesome! 

It is awesome but a sobering thought. In other words, what we do in this life will still speak long after we are gone --to others. No one is completely forgotten after they die. The things we say and do will say something about us and will have impact on others even when we are gone! Think about it, what is still known to you about a loved one that has passed on? What is still known to you about Adolph Hitler?..about Winston Churchill? about Charles Spurgeon or Billy Sunday or the Wesleys or Jim Elliot? What we do still speaks long long after we are gone! 

So, my question to you is what statement or testimony do you want your life to speak about you after you are gone? I most assuredly want my life to say righteous, to say pleasing to the Lord, to testify of the glory and love of God. I also want it to have mattered that I was ever here! I best can accomplish this by living out the above things I mentioned. 

Just a thought to encourage you to consider your life and your choices!






December 19, 2015

Lives Touch Lives

I was reading today in one of my devotion books and the verse Romans 14:7 - For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. Something struck me about this verse today. Most of the time this verse is used in sermons or lessons to remind us that our sin effects others around us. Often the story about Akin is used to show how his sin effected the Israel camp first and then his family and livestock. Israel lost a battle, then Akin and his family and livestock were killed because of his sin. This is a very good way to teach on the verse but another way hit me this morning.

I want to look at this verse from the point that all lives touch other lives. First and foremost, in the way of reproduction. Without two people uniting to create a baby, the world population would end. 

Yes, our sin will have repercussions on others even when we think they won't. However, I'd like to remember that our good works and deeds also effect others. Try smiling and see how often you receive a smile back. Being cheerful often gets the response of someone else becoming cheerful. It rubs off!

The real area I want to focus on is the second half of the verse. ....No man dieth to himself....

A person's death effects those loved ones in their lives as well as many others they have had contact with. Until someone is gone, many do not realize the hole or void they may leave behind. There would never be another suicide in the world if the person who feels worthless and as though they don't matter would remember that their life touches others even when they don't realize it. You are ALWAYS influencing others (maybe even from a distance) for good or for bad even when you are unaware! The movie "It's a Wonderful Life" is the best displaying of this thought. Because you make a certain choice, it may have a direct effect on someone else's life. If you had never been born, then your child or grandchild would never be born and maybe someone else would not be who they are. 

I will never this side of heaven understand why my dad died when I was 12, and if he hadn't, my life would have been very different and I often wonder about it. However, because he did, I have a baby sister and a little niece that I love. Now, I do not think God killed my dad so that Cassy and Amelia could be born but the fact is, they would not be a part of my life if my dad would have lived. Births and deaths effect all those lives connected to those people! So, no one lives to themselves and no one dies to themselves. Each life effects many many others...sometimes to just mere acquaintances. Until eternity, we will never know the full extent of how we may have touched another's life even in the simplest way. It's too bad that we can't all have the opportunity that the guy on It's a Wonderful Life had to know now just how much we matter. Perhaps we should just accept the fact that God has a purpose for every single life and that each life is important.

December 10, 2015

Being Gluten Free

Well, I've been gluten free for 22 days now and while I have to be thoughtful about choices - especially for snacks and eating out is harder because there's no way to know how things are prepared, but it really isn't as hard as most would think. I actually didn't expect to feel any different after going gluten free because I was told in 2008 that "surprisingly I had no problem processing gluten". I can say that I have had much less stomach issues and joint pain over the past couple weeks. For several months before I was complaining about my stomach being upset almost every time I ate no matter what i ate. Bob had been on me about getting checked out but I'm pretty stubborn and until October I didn't have health insurance so I wouldn't. Besides, if at all possible I try to avoid typical medical doctors. They have a place but I just believe there are better options than medicating and removing body parts. So, obviously I DO have an issue with gluten or symptoms would not have disappeared. Do you have upset stomach after eating? Feel bloated or have a gassy stomach afterwards? Have headaches often or joint pain often? If you answered yes to any of these, you may have a problem with gluten also. Just something to think about. 

I can't remember what all I said in my last health post but if I didn't say, one of my first tests showed that my liver isn't working correctly. My next test is going to check for pathogens, infections and fungus after I am on a certain supplement for 2 weeks. I will also be purchasing a glucose monitor to check my blood sugar levels each morning for a week or two. I will be doing a spit test over the weekend to precheck for candida (forms of yeast). I'm ordering a coffee enema kit from Amazon. I'm actually not looking forward to the finger pricking or the enema except that it leads to possible better health. I'd rather give blood all day long than get a shot or prick my finger. A coffee enema is supposed to help detox the gall bladder and liver and give instant energy because of this. So, I am looking forward to that!

I think I posted about the pinch of sea salt and lemon juice in my water being suggested and I totally love it! It's petty much a natural lemony homemade gatorade or powerade. 

Welp, that's all for now. People are welcome to ask questions and I'll do my best to answer.

December 8, 2015

J.O.Y

Most Christians know what J.O.Y stands for....Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last.

I want to take a moment to say while this is true, we need to remember that the "Y" is also included....Yourself is included! We need to remember to take care of ourselves, to take time for ourselves, to rest, to nourish ourselves both physically, mentally and spiritually. 

So often this little acronym is used to rebuke and remind us that we should be last on the list. I am not sure this is completely right. Yes, we are not to be selfish and self-centered but we need to remember that unless we replenish ourselves and take care of us, we will quickly run out of energy to give to and do for others. Jesus took time to be alone and pray and spend time with the Father. God gave command to several prophets to go and eat and rest. God himself rested on the seventh day! 

Everything in moderation!!! This little acronym was made to remind us not to become too self involved but it doesn't mean deny self to the point of complete depletion and having nothing left to give back to others or in service to Christ. 

November 29, 2015

Are You a Trophy Wife?

I noticed recently that someone commenting on one of my friend's facebook posts had the name "Trophy Wife" instead of their name. It got me thinking about the term and the meaning of it. 

Usually when someone is deemed a trophy wife, it is because they are beautiful, sexy, and often have a very shapely, fit body such as models or movie stars. The term is intended at times to be negative. Often they are viewed as not very bright and only as a trophy for the husband to make him the envy of his friends and coworkers. 

I think every wife should be considered a trophy wife by their husband. After all, they loved them enough to marry them and must have at the time of the wedding been attracted to them physically. As love grows and deepens over time, the wife's inner beauty should shine through and make them even more attractive to their husbands, even if weight has changed or wrinkles have started appearing. There should be enough history between the two and so much loved built up that each husband ought to feel his wife is a trophy God has rewarded him with. Isn't that what a trophy is?....a prize put on display to admire? 

Ladies should think of themselves as that trophy and do all they can to remain shiny and spiffy and someone that can be shown off. Let's not allow ourselves to become dusty and grimy and tarnished over time. Use your strengths to keep your shininess going. Help your husband to want to show you off like a trophy! 

If someone asks if you are a trophy wife....smile and say "yes"!

November 22, 2015

Journey to Good Health

I have decided to blog or journal about the journey I'm on to have better health.  These posts may not be interesting for anyone else to read and that's ok if no one reads...not many readers anyhow. I'm blogging about this for my own help and future remembrance. It all begins with assesments of my overall health, symptoms I'm experiencing, and testing with a FDN practioner. FDN is Functional Diagnostic Nutrition that takes a holistic and natural approach to better health rather than the typical medical approach of covering sypmtoms with medicine or removing ailing body parts. They use in depth diagnostic testing to figure out where the root of the problem is and then use lifestyle changes, supplements, and diet changes to naturally heal the body and get it to optimum functioning. 

My first two tests were a urine and saliva test. They check different body chemistry levels. Each level leads them to knowledge about how my body organs are functioning. They are big indicators that point to possible problems or causes of symptoms I am having. Two things that I found out were that I'm not breaking down or processing any proteins correctly and also the biggie is that I'm in adrenal exhaustion. Because of this exhaustion, all my hormone levels are off. 

The first thing I was advised to do was to remove gluten from my diet (just to see if some symptoms improve), change bed times to earlier as often as possible, remove all regular iodized table salt and replace with natural sea salt (even drinking filtered water with a small pinch of sea salt and a small amount of lemon juice in it), and to begin cutting back on sugar intake.

Next week, after I've practiced the above for a few days, we will introduce some new supplements that will help restore some balance. 

I'm proud to say that I have eaten no gluten for the past 2 1/2 days and it hasn't been terribly horrible. The first day I tried no gluten and no sugar at all but by late afternoon, my body sorta spazzed out on me and I ate something sugary and it helped some. (I'm not supposed to throw myself into stress trying to do these things...go slowly if necessary as long as I'm making strides)

I will eventually explain the reasons and whys for some of the advice..(ADVICE not medical prescriptions or diagnosis) Until I do more research on my own to verify some of the things I'm told, I will refrain from saying too much to avoid contraversy (I do enough of that as it is). I'm hoping that in blogging about this journey to health that someone else will learn and move themselves towards better health. I trust what I'm being told and believe in it, but I don't want to involve others until I do further investigating and research. I hope you will follow me on this path as I share details about my personal life and health.

November 12, 2015

To Cleanse or Not

This post may get a little controversial. I'm sure opinions may fly after reading but hey, a little debate is good sometimes. Recently, folks have been posting on facebook pass alongs about how the church is a hospital for sick sinners and not a museum for saints. I reckon I have had a mind set change on this idea as I age and read and understand my Bible more. I think most people including Christians do not understand the purpose of the church assembly. It is FOR THE SAVED ...it is for edification and perfecting of the saint, it is for the admonition and rebuke of the saint, it is for the partaking together of the Lord's Supper (communion), it is for praising the Lord together, and it is for the fellowship of the saint. The Bible says so!!! As a matter of fact, the Apostle Paul tells the church at Corinth to get those living in sin out of the church. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 5 and you will see what I am talking about. Revelation also talks about it. The church in Bible times was for the saved believer not the lost person. I don't think there is any reference of someone getting saved during a church assembly in the new testament. No Pentecost doesn't count....they were not yet meeting from house to house. The preaching services were purging out Jewish customs and traditions and teaching sound doctrine and how to witness and conduct yourself.  Soul winning and reaching the lost was done outside the walls of the church meeting. In the streets, markets, and temple (to reach the Jews). Somehow over the years, church meetings have evolved into bringing in lost people hoping the preacher can preach and reach them for Christ. 

Now, before anyone gets all annoyed thinking I want no lost person in a service, that is not the case. I'm simply pointing out that the Bible says not to keep those engrossed in sin inside the church. Yes, we are all sinners but there is a difference in someone who slips up and commits a sin and someone who just chooses to engage in a sinful lifestyle choice or who has an "I don't care" attitude about their sin. I also agree that none of us are to become self-righteous in our attitudes for we are all able to fall into temptation. 

I'm sure I have upset some with this opinion but hey, my blog, my opinion. I don't think the church is solely a hospital for sinners. Yes, it is a place to get right with the Lord, but it is a place that was intended for the saved believer (saint) to fellowship and learn and grow in God's Word. The world has changed the purpose not God. 

November 2, 2015

Becoming Like A Shepherd - Lesson 5 Lessons from the Farm Series

Is. 40:11 - He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young.

Ezek 34:12 - As a shepherd seeketh out his flock in the day that he is among his sheep that are scattered; so will I seek out my sheep, and will deliver them out of all places where they have been scattered in the cloudy and dark day. 

John 10:1-5
Psalm 23

So in these verses we find the duties of a shepherd. A shepherd is to provide, feed, protect, lead, guide, gather into the fold and correct when necessary. I want to look at how we as mothers, grandmothers, teachers, and Christians can apply the principles to our lives as we influence the world around us.

Provision:
Prov. 13:22a - A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children:
-- doesn't have to be money, can be godly heritage too

1 Tim. 5:8 - But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
--applies to men but many women (especially single moms) help to provide financially, but also can apply to providing meals, clean clothes, clean house, etc.

Gal. 6:10 - As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.
--if we see someone with a need that we can supply we are to do it! - especially for another Christian

Feeding & Teaching:
Ps. 78:5-7 - For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children:
6- That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: 
7- That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:
--we are to teach God's Word to the next generation and also declare His works before them...talk about and praise God when He blesses and speak about His chastisements too. - so they learn that God blesses and corrects His children

Acts 18:26 - And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when Aquila and Priscilla had heard, they took him unto them, and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly.
--men and women are to teach God's Word to others 

Titus 2:3-5 - The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4- That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5- To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
--older should teach younger in word and by example

Gal. 6:6 - Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teacheth in all good things.
--more grounded Christians should help teach new Christians

Gathering:
Mark 10:13-14 - And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them.
14- But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.
--bring kids to Christ, make them part of the fold

Prov. 11:36 - The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life; and he that winneth souls is wise.
--witness and tell others about salvation of Christ

Acts 8:29-31 - Then the Spirit said unto Philip, Go near, and join thyself to this chariot.
30-And Philip ran thither to him, and heard him read the prophet Esaias, and said, Understandest thou what thou readest?
31-And he said, How can I, except some man should guide me? And he desired Philip that he would come up and sit with him.
Acts 8:35 - Then Philip opened his mouth, and began at the same scripture, and preached unto him Jesus.
--Philip immediately was obedient to the prodding of the Holy Spirit, and was bold in preaching Jesus to the man

Correction & Guidance:
Prov. 22:15 - Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Prov. 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
--children need consitant correction and discipline---when left to themselves to raise they will not make right choices and will definitely get into mischief and sin that bring shame

Eph. 5:9-11 - (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)
10 - Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.
11- And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
--correct others (in love) when they do wrong and all things should be proven what is acceptable to God by His Word

1 Tim. 5:20 - Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
--when grave sin is present, it should be rebuked before all so others know not to do it

Phil. 2:15 - That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst os a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;
--be a guiding shining light that points to Jesus!

Now the last thing I want to talk about is based on the verses in John 10. These verses talk about "his own sheep" and "they hear my voice". In other words it is a personal relationship not just an acquaintance.

We need to be personal with those God gives us to influence. Our children need to feel close to us and should know us well enough that they know what is expected of them. (Don't be wishy-washy in our standards and expectations of them) Our influence should reflect on them.

Our children and children we teach at church or any other place should hear our words echoing in their ears when they are tempted. These should be from Bible lessons we have taught. We should be living examples to follow! If you want your children to pray then let them see you praying. If you want them to trust God in all areas  then let them see you do that. If you want them to be kind to others and bear other's burdens then let them see you do it. The best way to to that is to start young and make them participate when you make a meal for someone. Let them help make it and deliver it, for an example. Children learn what they live!

We can also have the same positive infuence on other adults. The same principle applies.







October 27, 2015

The Voices in Our Heads

I was reading a book recently and also noticed in a movie I was watching how we ladies pass judgment on one another. We are all aware of these judgments so therefore the little voices in our own heads is sometimes ever present...whispering---sometimes screaming. Because of these noises in our heads, we then allow guilty feelings to overwhelm us, we worry about what others will think or say, we second guess our decisions all in trying to live up to what we think others think of us. 

When these voices come, we need to block them out and listen closer to the still small voice of the Lord. Maybe we even need to stop, step back and take a moment to regain ourselves. We need to remember that other ladies are not the ones whose standards we must live up to...it's God's first and foremost and then our husbands if we are married, and then our children. It's not our friends, our extended family, our neighbors, or even our fellow church members that should drive our decisions. I'm aware that all this is easier said than done but it is something we must strive to accomplish. 

Spend time reading your Bible, talking with the Lord and seeking guidance from Him about even the smallest decisions in your daily life. This will help you better block out the voices whispering and sometimes screaming in your head! Practice this anecdote and it will get easier each day! 

October 26, 2015

Striving But Not Arrived

Not sure how this post will go but I will be sharing my heart. This time of year is always somewhat melancholy for me and has been that way for years, even though fall is my favorite time of year. My heart has been heavy for several days because I have offended someone unintentionally (and I actually am not sure what I actually did or said -- only told that I had). I have apologized but the damage is already done and therefore I must reap the consequences. As a pastor's wife, you are always put on the spot. You must keep your composure no matter what is going on in your mind and heart. You must smile through heartache, criticism, extreme pressures of ministry life even when you want to cry or feel like yelling. You must handle yourself with as much grace and tact as you can muster and do your very best not to be offensive to others. Now, if someone doesn't like or gets upset about something I am teaching from the Bible (and I am teaching it correctly and in context) then I do not apologize for what God's Word says. I never have and don't ever intend to. The person offended needs to take it up with the Lord not me. However, if I allow my actions or most likely my tongue to offend in my daily life in dealing with others then I need to correct myself and self evaluate. I also need to apologize when I know I have hurt someone or made them upset. 

While I believe whole heartedly that a pastor and even his family is held to a higher standard (above reproach) and that they are to be an example, I do wish that church members, friends, community leaders and others would allow for mistakes. We are people too! We are prone to sin, saying things we shouldn't, not being as attentive as we should at times, being inconsiderate, selfish and the list could go on. We make mistakes too. Really, the thing to do is to come to the person who has offended you and try to work it out. It may just be there was a misunderstanding somewhere. Completely separating yourself from them without allowing them to even know that you offended them doesn't resolve anything. No one can apologize and make things right if they never know they have done someone wrong. 

The past few days of self reflection has reminded me in a big way that I have not yet arrived...I am still striving daily to live the life God wants me to live and be the Christ like person he wants. I fail sometimes to live up to the standard. ---especially that others want. I do not ever want to hurt or offend people around me..especially those I care about and those in the flock God has given to Bob and I. It grieves me to know when someone is upset with me even if we have had an argument and I was also upset and angry. I don't like conflict between me and others. 

Ok, so this post was somewhat strange and was sharing my heart but sometimes my blog is for my own therapy. I know I cannot dwell on my mistakes, I must forgive myself as I know God has and move on whether the other person forgives or not. All I can do is apologize and try to make it right. 

October 9, 2015

Don't Make God Break Your Leg

Since I just did a lesson about becoming like a sheep, I had the facts I have learned about sheep and shepherds rolling in my mind while preparing to teach. 

For those who don't know about things that shepherds do, here are some facts. They use their staff for different things. The curved end is to hook the sheep's neck and pull him back and the straight end is used to help the shepherd clear a path when necessary and to lean upon as he leads. If the shepherd has a stubborn sheep that will not stay with the flock, the shepherd breaks the leg of the sheep or lamb and then carries the sheep on his shoulders until the leg is healed. This serves two purposes...they no longer go astray and they become totally reliant on the shepherd. 

The depiction of Jesus as a shepherd is probably my favorite of him. When you know all the things about the sheep -shepherd relationship it makes for a beautiful picture of the Lord's care. 

This is not a lesson on all those things but I'm sure their will be a full post about that later. This is about how as Christians we stray from walking close to the Lord. We can become stubborn and do things in our own way and we can stop obeying the tugging from the Holy Spirit. When we do this enough, God in a sense breaks our leg to bring us back to relying on and obeying Him. He may literally break a bone, but more often he will chastise in another way. He will do something to get your attention that will bring you back to your prayer knees, your seeking of His will, and Bible reading. He is the Good Shepherd! That is His job! If you don't want your leg broke, stay near the shepherd and where He wants you! 

Just a quick devo to make you think about your walk. 

Becoming Like a Sheep - Lessons from the Farm Series

We are going to start by talking about the behaviors of sheep. Then we will look at each of the behaviors and see how we can apply them to our own lives as Christians.

- Gregarious - prefer to be with herd or to flock
- Followers - need leadership so they don't go astray (sheep are lead not driven like cattle)
- Timid - run from what frightens them or what will do harm
- Dependent - rely on the shepherd for their needs

I. Gregarious - Learn to flock
- sheep do this because they are very social and it is one of their only forms of defense (protects from predators) besides the shepherd (when they stay grouped up it is harder for their predators to get one)

Ps. 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!

Heb. 10:25 - Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
- We NEED Christian fellowship - it helps to build us up and encourage us
- It also helps to protect us against the world and sin - it is easier to stand in a crowd than alone

II. Followers - follow your leader whom ever it may be - husband, pastor, boss, or parent and Christ 

Eph. 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
- When we follow our husbands it is like we are doing it to the Lord

Heb. 13:17 - Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they must give an account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
- the pastor will someday give an account for how he watched for your soul and ran the church - there is a lot of responsibility on his shoulders!

Col. 3:20 - Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
- when kids are young they are to obey but when we are grown up we are still to honor them

Eph. 6:5 - Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; 
- there is a command to obey your boss

John 10:27 - My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: 
- if we are one of God's sheep, He knows us and we should know Him and His voice and follow - when the Holy Spirit is tugging at our hearts we should obey

III. Timid - Learn to run from harm - run from sin
- we need to practice running from temptations and evil influences that would only harm us

Prov. 4:14-15 - Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men. 
Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away.
- don't follow the wicked and partake in their ways

1 Cor. 6:18 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Eph. 5:11 - And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.

2 Tim. 2:22 - Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

James 4:7 - Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

- flee or run from ungodly things, resist

IV. Docile - Learn to be peaceful and forgiving

Matt. 6:14 - For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
- when we forgive, God forgives

1 Thess 5:15 - See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.

Heb. 12:14 - Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:

- we are commanded to not get revenge and to live peaceably

V. Dependent  - Learn to rely on Jesus

Ps. 34:9-10 - O fear the LORD, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him.
The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing.

Philippians 4:19 - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

- God loves us and wants to take care of our needs and give us good things!

September 8, 2015

Becoming Like a Horse - Lessons From the Farm Series

Psalm 31:3 - For thou art my rock and my fortress; therefore for thy name's sake lead me, and guide me. 
              ---this should be our daily prayer!

Horses (broke horses) are lead, guided and controlled by us with bits, bridles and blinders. We're going to look at these three items and how they can apply to our lives.

I. Bits In - James 3:3 - Behold, we put bits in the horses' mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body.
       - we use different bits for different control depending on how stubborn a horse may be. 
       - some are designed to be more harsh to stop the stubbornness.

Just as bits are used to control a horse, we need to keep bits in our mouths to control our speech.
Prov. 18:21 - Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
             - we can use our mouth for negative or positive - to be foolish or wise
James 3:8-10, Prov. 15:1 & 7, Prov. 12:18

II. Bridles On - 1 Cor. 9:27 - But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. 
            - horses are either "neck reined" or "pull reined" depending on the training and stubbornness of the horse. (reins are the long straps you hold coming off the bridle)
            - neck reined means you turn the horse by allowing the rein to touch the side of the neck and the horse knows to turn that way
           - pull reined means you must pull whichever rein in the direction you want the horse to go 

Just as bridles are used on a horse to guide and keep it under subjection, so must we be in subjection to God and His will.

God prefers to start with whispers! But He will yank you around if necessary! 
James 4:7, Heb. 12:9

III. Blinders On - Rom. 12:2 - And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
          - because horses get spooked and distracted and take off and stop minding commands blinders are used to keep race horses and draft horses (for work) focused on the task before them. 
     - We need to have blinders on to not be distracted by the things of the world.
Col. 3:2, Titus 2:12, 1 John 2:15-17

Remember to keep bits in, bridles on and blinders on! 

       

September 3, 2015

A Grandma Again!

On August 21, 2015 at 12:13 am I became a grandma for the second time this year. I'd like to introduce Lucy Diane. She weighed 7 lbs 2 oz and was 20 1/2 inches long. 
Even though my youngest made me a grandma first, earlier this same year; there was something special about watching my first have her first. Little Lulu gave her Momma quite a trial coming in to the world but she is well worth it. 

Getting to be there for all the labor and waiting for the c-section delivery in the waiting room helped me to realize that my daughter is way stronger and tougher than I ever knew. She did amazingly well with out pain killers for over 8 hours of hard labor and then another 6 or more hours before a c section took place. She toughed it out for sooo long! I'm so proud of her!

God once again showed his blessings and love on our family by making doctors predictions wrong. At about 20 weeks, Lucy was diagnosed (invetro) with club feet. Prayers were answered as requested and there is no club feet!!! She does have a turning in a bit but drs say that massage and turning daily will take care of it. 
So Addelyn and Lucy made me a grandma this year ---cousins that I hope will become great friends in the future. 



August 15, 2015

Truth Sets You Free!

In my devotions the other day I saw a passage in a new way. I was in John 8:31-36. Jesus tells the Jews listening that if they would continue in His Word then they are truly disciples (paraphrasing) and then they shall know the truth and the truth shall make them free. In their arrogance, they tell him that they were born free and had never been in bondage. Jesus tells them that if they commit sin then they are in bondage to that sin and all that goes with it.

Knowing truth from God's Word frees you from bondage of sin and worldly ways. 
      * First, it leads you to salvation which frees you from the debt of sin
       * Second, it leads you to godly living and away from the entrapment of worldly lusts

Accepting truth is what helps you in situations...it is freeing for your peace of mind and soul
--It frees you from denial - as long as you deny the facts you stay stuck
--It frees you from pretense - you no longer pretend that a situation is the way YOU want it to be
--It frees you from lies - you no longer need to lie to cover up for yourself or someone else
--It frees you to move past the situation and on with life

Truth indeed sets you free!! 

Just a little something to ponder. ..Embrace truth!

August 7, 2015

The Brokenness of People

Most of my life, I have been a people watcher. I tend to observe the inner actions between people, their body languages, facial expressions, words they say, etc. I like to know what makes people tick...understand them. Even strangers. I often watch and wonder what is going on that makes them do what they do. Sometimes, in my busy days and/or my cynicism, I forget to realize that every person is broken in some way, shape or form. Yes, it is true. Listen to their story and you will find this out. Even the most together person has cracks and slivers of brokenness that need healing. Life has a way of doing that in this sinful world. Every person has a story that makes them say or do the things they do. Most try to hide it from the world and especially their close friends and relatives but the broken scars are still there. 

What everyone needs (along with Jesus) is to feel understood, to feel loved unconditionally and to feel like they matter in this world. (I think I've posted about that particular subject before but it bears repeating) To provide these things there must above all be compassion. Compassion sees the hurt and damage behind the words and behavior. Compassion allows you to reach out and to be understanding and help them. 

Over the past couple of years the Lord has worked on my mind and heart about judging others' habits and addictions. By the way, habits ARE addictions! I had a thought a couple years ago (probably from the Holy Spirit) that who are you to be judgmental about someone else's addiction just because theirs is illegal or if not should be due to the harm it leads to in their own lives and those around them. Examples are drugs, alcohol and smoking. My addiction to soda is also harmful. Food addiction is harmful, too. Now, when I talk about being judgmental, I'm not talking about "judge not lest ye be judged". This is often misused scripture for those who want to continue in sin. When the Bible says this, it means not to judge in condemnation. (to think you are better than them) God does expect us to make decisions about right and wrong and to judge righteous judgment. If we do not, how can we follow the command to come out from among them and be ye separate? I confess that in the past I have been guilty of feeling superior to those with chemical dependency or alcohol and even felt disdain for them. I have worked up close and personal in a Christian addiction recovery program to try to help people. I have seen in friends and family members the lies, destruction of the body and relationships and families so I allowed my heart to become hardened towards these folks. After struggling with giving up soda, I fully understand addiction! Now, I do not understand wanting to try drugs in the first place but I DO understand trying to quit. (I say I don't understand wanting to try it in the first place but really it probably has to do with whatever brokenness has come their way) By the way, while working in the recovery program, many used to say that cigarettes were much harder to quit than illegal drugs. 

As I said, EVERYONE is broken in some way. Some only have some cracks, some have big cracks that they have allowed to mend but scars are still present and some are shattered so severely that it could take a whole life time to be mended. 

I don't think anyone but God knows just how many people walking the earth have been sexually, physically or verbally abused. Only God knows how many have been through emotional and/or physical trauma so traumatic that they cry inside every single day. And here's the thing, sometimes it doesn't have to be a major trauma. What is a small thing to one person is completely devastating to another. 

I reckon this post is just to make people realize that maybe the person being a jerk or being rude today is broken. Of course, the biggest brokenness is the severed relationship between God and man that can only be fixed by Jesus. Some days I just look around and am saddened by the fact that less people know Jesus than most people realize. Even professing Christians speak and act out in ways they shouldn't due to how they were broken in the past. Maybe we should realize that what all need is kindness, or a hug, or understanding and without a doubt COMPASSION! 


August 4, 2015

Great Expectations

 Great expectations....no this is not about the book. (I've never read it, but I'd like to) I want to address the topic of our expectations. I came to realize years ago that our biggest disappointments in life usually stem from our expectations. When things don't go as we expected them to, we get sad, angry, and may even have a complete "melt down". Basically, adults are often like the three year old that doesn't get what they want, right when they want it. This can be displayed in many areas from road rage to birthday gifts to supper plans, to date plans to bedroom plans and on and on. We get angry when traffic doesn't move along as we want. We get sad when we don't receive the gift we were hoping to receive. We may feel cheated when we don't get to go out to eat or when something other than we want must be cooked. We get upset when a date must be cancelled or is not what we wanted it to be. We feel unloved if romance doesn't carry on the way we daydreamed earlier in the day. When these things happen and we dwell on the not getting what we want, we react in negative ways. Even if we don't react, we deal with all these emotions inside because expectations were not met. 

The old term, "the honeymoon is over" stems from when newlyweds have the newness and giddiness wear off and reality sets in. A few days, weeks or months (depending on the couple) after the wedding, reality of life...habits, characteristics unknown until you actually dwell together, finances, work schedules, ...life.. reveal themselves and adjustments must be made as starry rose colored glasses come off. Pretty much every married man or woman out there at some point after the wedding has the thought "this is not what I thought it would be like". Most people adjust and take it in stride and learn to give and take and accept shortcomings and missed expectations. There are some who do not, though, and these are the folks that struggle with bitterness and resentment. They become cynical or short tempered or live in a state of distress or depression. They become nagging (not just women) and critical. 

The higher you set your expectations the greater chance for disappointment and hurt. Now, I am not talking about setting expectations for personal goals to achieve or expectations of our children. Realistic expectations. I am talking about day dream type of expectations. Wanting a husband to be sweet and thoughtful and romantic 100% of the time like the guys in the chick flick movies is unrealistic. 50% may be unrealistic for many! Wanting a wife like June Cleaver who cooks breakfast dressed in pretty clothes with full make up on and wearing pearls (who also cleans in the same way!) is also unrealistic. Face it...everyone wakes up with morning breath, hair sticking up and in need of brushing their teeth! Men, especially those who do physical labor for employment, get dirty and stinky from working and sweating. Reality is reality and we either accept it or get upset.

Expectations must not dictate our lives. Plans often must change due to unforeseen circumstances. Cars break down, children get sick or have ornery days, and needs arise. I always say "make your plans in pencil and give God the eraser". (In fact, this saying is on our church sign outside right now!) 

Everyone day dreams or fantasizes about how things may be for a particular moment. That is ok as long as you realize that it may not become reality and you don't allow yourself to become upset if it doesn't and you can enjoy the moment that truly does happen. Ladies, if your guy texts or calls during the day to say hello and to hear your voice, be happy and thankful and don't be upset if he doesn't bring you flowers when he gets home or take you out for a candle light dinner. Accept the good things that come your way. Guys, if you come home from work and she is wearing baggy lounging clothes with her hair in a ponytail but has cooked a great meal then be happy and thankful. And remember, she looks the same under those clothes whether they are baggy sweat pants or a pretty dress. ;) Just saying! 

Maybe we need to evaluate our expectations and remember to keep them in check and make them realistic. If we don't, we are in for much hurt feelings and disappointments. Learn to go with the flow! 

July 23, 2015

Part of the Family

This post will be a little different than usual. I was laying on the couch the other day and my little doggie (Yorkie/Rat Terrier Mix) Peanut was cuddled up with me. We have two other dogs (outside) and also a cat (oldest pet 15 years old). 

He's a mess. He has Wylie Coyote ears. He is such a sweet little thing and listens pretty well compared to many other dogs. We inherited him last November from my son. I got attached to him before we could find another home and so he is my dog. 

When I was on the couch with him and petting him the other day. I had a thought of the unconditional love of a pet, especially a dog. They just want to love you and have your attention. Even when you ignore them for a time, they are so happy when you reach out and touch them or talk to them. They look at you with so much love in their eyes....just like a baby or toddler. 

Pets always become part of the family. When you lose one of them, most people grieve. It truly is a loss. We went through this during the winter months with one of ours. Last night a sweet lady in our church (a widow) lost her little Shih Tzu. She was attacked by another dog. She was crying at church and I understand completely. I've been there. Zoey was her companion to help in loneliness. She also only a week or so ago lost a good friend to cancer so this must have hit her extra hard. 

Another thought hit me while I was petting Peanut. Jesus also loves us unconditionally. He is always waiting for us to talk to Him or spend time learning about Him in the Bible. Unfortunately, many times we ignore him (like our pets) until it is convenient for us to pay attention. This shouldn't be the case. None of us like to be ignored...wives, you know that if your husband ignores you then you do not feel close to him, or feel like being affectionate when he has paid no attention to you. Do not take the Lord for granted or your pet that is just waiting for your attention. Just a little thought provoker. 



July 14, 2015

Letting Others In

This post is prompted by a blog post my daughter shared on facebook last week. It was by a lady that was writing about her own experiences and it was well thought out and well written. I have watched my daughter struggle ever since teenhood in the area of making friends. She has sat through many sermons and lessons about "showing herself friendly to have friends". She has always been shy but vocal about her opinions when she feels comfortable around a person. She was talking to me about her concerns a couple three weeks ago on not having any close friends living near her and about feeling excluded in her own church. (this is common in many churches tho most won't admit it). 

She was looking at the verse during a sermon she was currently hearing about having friends and making friends and the whole thing. In the verse it says "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly." - Proverbs 18:24. Well, something jumped out at her (I think the Lord was comforting her and revealing to her that it might not just be her problem!)...This verse says a man that HATH (present tense). So, if you already have a friend, you must be friendly...be a friend. This verse (tho preachers like to yell it) doesn't say that being friendly is how you GET friends. I know, that it is true that you should be friendly. But that only goes so far. You can be friendly and cordial all day long but that doesn't mean that another person or group of people will allow you into their inner circle and befriend you. Preachers also preach that you need to step outside your comfort zone and not be shy and just go up to people. Don't you find it funny and down right ironic that the one being asked to go out on a limb and change is the shy person?! If someone is outgoing then they should be able to easily make the effort to include, accept and bring another person into their inner circle. When are we going to hear a sermon about how someone should change and "tone it down a bit" from their over zealous outgoingness (is that a word?!)? No, we just want someone who is painfully shy and feels awkward to come out of their shell and become naturally bubbly and talkative. Here's a hint...for shy people that is almost torture! Mostly because they have occasionally ventured out and then been made to feel dumb or inadequate or actually been made fun of at the time. 

I say that too often it is the fault of the group (clique) who will not allow anyone else in or to get close. The new person is kept at arms length, never invited to someone's house for dinner, or on a group outing, or to a party or even into a discussion that is already going on in the hallway. If no one invites you into the conversation, a shy person doesn't feel comfortable barging in on a conversation. Let's face it...you can only stand near in silence waiting to be allowed into the conversation until you feel awkward standing there. You finally just walk away. Now, I do not have that problem. I can step into a conversation in the middle of Walmart with perfect strangers and not bat an eye. But, I was not that way until I was in high school. I made the varsity cross country team and gained some confidence. I rarely spoke to people to that point unless you were family and/or I knew you for years. After my dad died at age 12, I almost completely withdrew but then, I made the cc team and everything changed. Also, if I got angry, I would let her fly even as a kid. 

I have watched my daughter struggle and it is hard. I want to take the hurt away but I can't. I reckon my plea is that you include people. Let someone besides your "bestie" in! Make an effort to talk to new people (especially if you are outgoing) and get to know them. You may just make a new close friend. And, you will surely calm and ease that person's nerves and give them a glimmer of hope and joy in their heart to feel included. 

June 19, 2015

My Husband's Hands

My husband's hands
Are calloused and strong
Yet there's a gentleness in his touch
For which I daily long.

My husband's hands
Reached out in discipline and love
As our children grew up
They learned respect for God above.

My husband's hands
Willingly help and labor
For those in need
Whether family, friend or neighbor.

My husband's hands
Are loved by me
For safe in them
Is the place I want to be.